Opinions needed

[ForTealHiker]

I am expecting a baby girl, the father and I are not together anymore after 10 years together. He is a traveller, I am a non-traveller. I was gobsmacked to be told by him last night that for the rest of his life he will do his very best to cover up the fact she is only going to be half traveller, half gorja as he doesnt want anyone knowing she is not full traveller and that he will just have to make do with her being his daughter. I have always said if he wants to see her every day i am happy for this and i dont want to limit him to set days etc to which he has stated he does not want to see her every day because he doesnt want to live with me. In my opinion he doesnt have to live with me to have unlimited access to seeing her. I am absolutely devastated to now learn he is embarrassed and ashamed of her before she is even here. I wouldnt dream of feeling embarrassed or ashamed of her. Any advice on moving forward on how to co-parent with someone who feels this way towards his own child already would be appreciated please

He is not your priority. He sounds like a total douche anyway. I wouldn't try and force a relationship with someone who was ashamed of their own child. Look after yourself and your child and she'll see what he's like in due course.

If he's embarrassed with a half traveller child is he also embarrassed by you?
He sounds like a real loser. A real sexist pig.
No real man would be talking about " making do" with a child.
IMO his negative attitude is bound to sleep out and damage the self esteem of your child.
I would be cutting him out of my life as much as possible. You both deserve better.