Worried about the safety of my mixed race family…

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I feel a lot of worry about the safety of the country for mixed race people. They are the most precious people in my life. They are my family. My son, my daughter and my husband are all mixed race. I don’t have a close relationship with any other family members and I have a few other friends but they are white so don’t really
Get it.

I know I am not overreacting as racism is clearly on the rise and rampant and the politicians are deeply corrupt in their tactics to turn us all against each other.

I feel guilty to be the only white one in the family. I feel so angry that when I choose to have children, race was not an issue in the UK 🇬🇧 I hate to see it but I feel like I’ve failed them to raise them here even though I didn’t know what the future held. I have this desire to make a plan to move abroad but logistically and financially o don’t think that will be possible.

I feel like everyone else (that I know) is safe and protected but my little precious is at threat. I can’t even speak to my own parents about it as they don’t believe reform are racist.

I feel like I’m stuck in a nightmare and it’s only going to get worse.

In my deepest darkest moments I fear my family being taken from me as their is a hate group towards mixed race people that is only growing. I’m scared of history repeating itself.

My feelings are worry, fear, anger, loneliness.

Anyone relate. ?

I don't as a white woman but im so sorry, the pain and fear leaps out from your post and i couldn't ignore. I think the majority of people don't feel the way these dick heads do. It's like a willy waving, look at me, who can scream the loudest contest. It won't reflect in the votes and outright actions. Though to be fair, all i know is it doesn't reflect my votes or actions. Im sorry ❤️

I’m not in the same position as I just look brown and not mixed race though my mum was white and my dad very dark skinned. She received abuse for marrying my dad and having mixed race children. I now get some of the fear she must have felt but tried to hide from us in the 80’s. I remember asking her to explain the term half caste to me when I was 8. Adults had told me they didn’t want their children playing with me because I was half caste. The worry and fear for your loved ones is damaging, it eats at you. Even finding the balance of explaining things to your children is also very hard, they are treated differently for being brown by some people. They are seen as less than. They are viewed with more suspicion, viewed as dirty if not immaculate all the time. If they do something wrong people will treat them more harshly. I think we can go down a rabbit hole with this though. We have to try to live life.

Thank you so much for the validation… it means a lot as otherwise it’s all my head and so hard to explain to others without sounding mental.
Wow - yes that must have been super tough for your mum (and you) how are things now?

It is really scary to feel afraid for the safety of your family and you have my full sympathy. It feels like xenophobia and racism are increasing in many countries. You know, as do your partner and children, the good experiences you have all shared here and the friends you all have. The majority of people would never treat any stranger with aggression, for any reason. It is natural for us all to want to protect our family and feel helpless when we can't so probabilities of anything actually happening being low may not help but I hope it does in some way.