This is such a horrible thing to even write but I was neglected/abused as a child and I am obviously very sensitive to it.
I have my own children, in a single parent. age ranges 19-8 just for reference I know how hard parenting can be.
My friend has a 13 year old and a 8 year old. The 8 year old is non verbal and has global delays.
so my friend she has been suffering from depression she says, for a few months now. Although she goes out weekends when she’s kid free drinking, dating etc. What I am concern about is the state of her home, I went round last week and it’s filthy, there’s no carpets, no furniture. I was literally standing in the kitchen the whole time, her children stay in their bedrooms. The oldest doesn’t attend school as she says she’s home schooling although says she’s too depressed to do any teaching right now.
the 8 year old has a bedtime of 6pm, she doesn’t take him out on holidays he is just assigned to his room with an iPad.
now I have offered support, encouragement. I have offered to help tidy, offered to take her daughter out, her son out. She declines I’ve told her straight that this is probably effecting her children long term which she shrugs off as being depressed and I don’t understand.
I just don’t know what to do.