Ds1 justtold me nobody plays with him at school and nobody wants to be his friend, and he sat and cried at playtime until a big girl took him inside to do playdoh

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And I want to skin all the other children alive and make drums out of their hide.

well I don't but I am pissed off and incredibly upset that my sweet little 5 year old is crying out of loneliness at school.

I walk the same way home as a few of the mums, my son gets on fine with their children, so why aren't they playing with him at school? My heart hurts and I feel like crying myself.

How can I mend this? I'm sending him to school with two little cars tomorrow to play with at play time, one for him and one for a friend, and I am hoping that might tempt someone to play with him, and there is one child who ds1 mentions a lot in a "X doesnt' like me/X isn't my friend" kind of way, so should I bring this up with the teacher? We have ha problems with X before, but X plays with everyone, it seems, which means they are then 'not allowed' to play with ds1 (it's all very five year old)

What shall I do? How can I build his confidence, help him to be more assertive and ask children to play with him?

hope you get to speak to teacher today.

I was wondering, what it is about the palygrounds ituation that might upset him, as yousaid he is talkative or engages with other kids when you are walking. Is it becuase he is shy maybe. it heped that yuo told about him not speakng till 3, and it must be different for him and he must find it less natural to just plow in and join in.

saying that, alot of children find it difficult.

Can you arrange a playdate. or a meet up with cetian kids he does seem to get on with, so that maybe that way he could form a stronger bond with a few individuals?

I think he needs to stop asking if he can play and just join in. Had the same thing with ds2 only at home, and he would ask if he could play and the older boys would say no. As soon as I told him to stop asking and just join in, things were fine.

have you managed to speak to the teacher this morning?

How is he with the other children when you drop him off and pick him up ??

Ds is constantly telling me that no one wants to play with him, but what I think he must mean is that no one wants to play what he wants to play, because whenever I take him he seems to play with absolutly everyone in many different year groups, and ther girls absolutly love him.