Is it just us?

[amyliz93]

i think I’m just looking for someone else out there to say they’re going through or have been through the same thing, just so I don’t feel so alone 🫣

i have a 4mo who is exclusively breastfed and he doesn’t sleep for longer than 2.5 sometimes 3 hours a night. On a good night he wakes up, feeds and then goes straight back to sleep. I keep seeing things about babies only sleeping when they’re fed and how you should try and break this habit, but this isn't the case during the day, he’ll put himself to sleep and most nights he’ll feed and then fall asleep himself in his crib. He doesn’t have a dummy so if he wakes he doesn’t have anything to soothe himself back to sleep. He has one long nap during the day and several smaller ones. We have a very good bedtime routine so I’m not sure what else I should be doing.

I don’t really have a question 😅 I just need a little validation I think just so I don’t feel like I’m the only person with a baby that doesn’t sleep through the night at 4 months.

Of course you're not the only one. He is literally meant to wake, it's what keeps him safe from sids. Mine didn't sleep longer than 1.5 hours at a time until they were about ten months, when they would manage an indulgent 2hr stretch. We had weeks at a time when they would wake every twenty mins.

It's really early days. It seems endless but this time won't last forever. 2.5 to 3 hours for a 4 month old sounds about right. It's hard but try not to question everything you are doing. To a certain extent babies will do what they do no matter what you try to do. They won't always be waking all night. I have teenagers and all I can tell you about parenting is everything is temporary
Things will change. Hang in there.

It’s really not common for babies to sleep through at 4 months old, where have you go that idea? There wouldn’t be so much chatter about the infamous 4 month regression if babies mostly slept through! Anecdotal I know but of all the babies I’ve known none of the breastfed babies were sleeping through and only about half of the formula fed ones were.

I just see posts about babies sleeping for longer hours than mine & you over hear conversations at baby groups. I know you shouldn’t compare but it’s hard not too.

Thank you for all the reassurance though 🙏

You hear stories about them going all night and this can be true, with was for my first (all night by the way is classed as 5-6 hours) He was wonderful, would wake for a feed at 10pm, then sleep until 4/5ish, feed and back off until 7:30.

DS2 woke on the hour, every hour from birth to about 18 months old. I have no idea how on earth I managed to drive in to work sometimes after returning when he was 9 months old. Even now at 5 he wakes once or twice a night.