Friendship issues DD year 2

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DD had a really tough time settling in Year 1, to the point that she would go in early each morning to help sharpen pencils.

Luckily in Year 2 she has hit the ground running and is happy going in and doing well.

There is a friendship dynamic that is causing problems, and I’m looking for advice, school are aware of this, but it seems to be happening at lunchtime when staff aren’t around.

There are a set of twins A and B - they are lovely girls. My DD plays well with them, and there are no issues. Another friend C is very dependent on Twin A and doesn’t like my DD being around or playing with them and keeps telling my DD ‘go away’ or ‘your not allowed to play with us’ and it’s breaking her heart.

Ive told her to tell friend C ‘you don’t tell me who I can play with’ but it’s a difficult lesson to teach a sad 6 year old.

I vaguely know the mum, but she is never at drop off or collection, it’s alway granny. I know of 4 other kids who are having problems with this girl too.

Im not sure how to word a message to the mum? Or should school be doing more?

ive always found the friendship stuff is best going through school rather than through parents unless you’re 100% sure of the parents…

Go through school but unfortunately I haven’t found school to be very bothered about these sorts of incidents sadly.

We had a very similar scenario. Instead of asking DD to tell the other girl off, I encouraged my DD to play with someone else. I used to say sone along the lines of “it sounds as though she wasn’t feeling very happy today, if that happens again just go and find someone who is in a better mood to play with”.