Hello, just after some advice really as it's making me really sad. My boy who is nearly 9 had a few issues when he started school, regarding playing games and losing. He was able to work through those issues at school and generally he's alright at school now (he does lots of clubs like games club etc and is fine) He still has moments when we play games and can't handle losing, but he's much better,
anyways we have avoided him playing in a football team up until this year because of this side of him and not knowing how he would be etc lots of people said it was a way for him to work through it, and we wouldn't know unless we did it. Anyway he joined the more established team at the local club - he's actually a really great footballer.( the team have played together for a year or so, so he's very new in that sense). He had a good few games but then they suffered a heavy loss and ever since then he's just been on a bit of a downward spiral. He gets cross and upset (cries) during the games if it's not going the way he feels it should. We've spoken to the coaches and they have said it's something that does come with time etc but I just don't know if it's worth this pain now. We are dreading the games, he seems to put himself under a pressure each time (which doesn't come from us) and ends up upset, and we just don't want it to impact the team or him (or us!) I'm now stuck between wondering if it's just too soon or we stick it out a bit longer just to see? Has anyone had similar/any tips? We do lots of talking about the feelings being valid etc but that he needs to regulate. But it all seems to go out the window at the games. Thanks ☺️