Toddler is obsessed with her dad and it’s breaking my heart

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Hello, my husband and I have 2.4 old daughter. She’s always been a daddy’s girl which I’m absolutely fine with. But lately she has been so obsessed with him and rejecting me, it’s breaking my heart. He drops her off at nursery/nannys 4 mornings a week, and I have her most weekends whilst he works and on a Monday. This morning we were on our own and she threw a tantrum about getting dressed, but was inconsolable for 45 minutes because daddy weren’t there. If we’re both in a room together she would choose him in an instant. Im so grateful she loves her dad and he is an amazing dad but it’s starting to break my heart and really doubt myself as a parent - why doesn’t she want her mum? She is also much worse behaved for me. If anyone has been through this or has some advice I would really appreciate it :(

It’s a phase.

It’s such a common phase, just keep merrily chatting away through it and she’ll move on.

Don’t they all go through this phase? My DD did. I just assumed it was a developmental thing and enjoyed my child free time!

Entirely ordinary phase. I’d be asking myself in your shoes why it was upsetting me so much? Is something else going on?

I can totally see why it's upsetting you but it is just a phase and will pass soon.
My dd only wanted me for so long that life was becoming so hard. I never had a minute to myself. She wouldn't even let him pick her up and I don't think I managed to do an unsupervised wee for over a year.
Our solution: I stopped going to the swings, softplay and swimming with her and they became 'daddy' activities. She now can't wait to see him coming and will happily wave goodbye to me.

Yep, just a phase and a really common one. It doesn't mean anything negative about your relationship with her.

As others have said this is challenging but normal! Soon there will be a Mummy phase.

My tips are when with her make her feel like she has choices. Ie do you want to wear the pink tights or the white tights today? Will be draw or colour in before lunch? Will we play with the cuddly toys or build a fort? This will make her feel she is making decisions which may reduce some tantrums

God I wish my toddler would prefer daddy😅 might have two seconds to myself then

My daughter is 16months and is ALL about Daddy. In all honesty I think he’s abit funner than me. I try my best and we read and play games but he’s much more animated and throws her about etc. she loves it. It’s just a phase as others have said. We were on holiday and she only wanted him to dance with her so I just accepted it and enjoyed my wine 😂

Yes completely comprehend how this makes you feel upset 😢God Bless You
Totally agree with others mentioning it's just a phase
Please try to not let this temporary phase undermine you
Try to make your terrific time with your daughter extra fun & detach with love from her tantrums
You're her one & only Marvelous Mum & no 1 but no 1 can ever possibly take your place or commence to hold a candle to you 🕯️
Remember this fact, & you're irreplaceable- as your confidence reestablishes, in time, so will your daughter's appreciation & adoration of & for you, her magnificent Mummy 💚