Additional needs children and children without Additional needs

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Hello all im really confused and unsure what im to do,There are quite a few children with additional needs (mainly adhd) in my childs class/school year. I have always brought my child up to respect ppl with disabilities, additional needs, race ,religion Everyone is the same just Everyone has different lifestyles ways of living different needs etc.But some of the children with adhd are continuously winding the other children up or being violent My question is ive taught my child about others being different but how much is my child supposed to take before he gets angry and can't cope with the tormenting how is he supposed to 💯 understand that they can say silly nasty things wind others up and not gey in trouble but if he retaliate hes the problem because he doesn't have any additional needs. Please no hate and I hope ive not written anything to offend anyone

He's not supposed to take any harassment. Your child doesn't have to suffer because someone else has additional needs. That's not being unfair.
Other child is pestering, your child says no stop or similar, then repeats more firmly, then tells a teacher. They either intervene and sort it or they don't and your child tells you after school. At which point you raise it with the school.

I agree but the teachers are not as understanding and therefore my child and others are being punished

Is it physical ? Because it’s on the rise in school where a lot of children with ADHD etc are displaying violent behaviour making other children suffer.

My child went through this, we taught him how to defend himself, it was the only way.

I m sorry you and your child are going through this. Maybe you can talk about specific example - ignoring others shouting out in class is ok, but if someone hits you or is aggressive, it is not and you need to tell an adult. Try and keep it simple for them. If your child is being bullied,I'd follow the usual school procedures for reporting , keeping the focus clearly on your

Btw, ADHD is not an explanation for aggression. It's not in diagnostic criteria and no reason why it should be treated differently to non ADHD violence.

There are quite a few kids with additional needs in my daughters class and occasionally there are issues however, the school do there best that the behaviour of these children shouldn't impact the other children.
We have explained that some of the children have other needs and that warrants some patience from her and explain why they might behave differently because of their conditions but absolutely stressed that she matters too. We support her in stepping away from them if she doesn't like how they are and communicating with staff if they are making the classroom a difficult place and definitely shouldn't tolerate being hurt. She does actually play quite a bit with one of the students awaiting an assessment for ADHD and has on occasions hurt other students. They seem to play well together and my daughter has never been hurt by them.

Hi everyone my childs father was given 2 and a hlf hr fortnightly contact days with myself supervising at the beginning of the year,My question is he goes to a play centre (father sits with head in his phone whilst child plays 🤦‍♀️) then for the last 45 mins he expects me to leave the play centre to then meet him at McDonald's/kfc/burger king to eat.Ive said im not prepared to do this (i have other children and expenses of my own ie petrol) he must eat at the play area where they have contact Am I wrong?

You need to start a new thread.