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Struggling with a 3 and half month old fussy baby

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Bethymum · 15/10/2025 18:17

My baby is very fussy, no matter what, he often is moaning, it doesn’t always escalate to crying but is usually moaning. This often happens in the following scenarios when he wakes up, when I put him down, when I put him in the car seat or pram, if I hold him in certain positions, if I try to sit him on my lap, if he can’t grasps a skill immediately like trying to grab a toy, if I change him, if I’m getting my boob out to feed etc you get the gist. I’m doing everything I should be, I go to baby classes, socialise, try to be patient and positive, and do things for myself, use the dummy, go through the usual list of is he tired, bored, hungry etc. This isn’t an allergy or anything like that etc his temperament is just fussy and this is clear when he is around other babies too. I just need some kind words to help me because I’m struggling and finding every day so exhausting and wondering how long I can keep going without getting depressed. On the surface I look like I’m doing so well but it’s wearing my down bit by bit daily. My husband is supportive too, it’s not about more help really, it’s just about how I can mentally cope with a fussy child. It also feels like every week, a new type of fussy behaviour emerges. Kind words to help me get through please.

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Callicodreams · 15/10/2025 19:35

I really feel for you, it's really tough. Both of my children were like this but it got a lot better quite quickly when they could sit up and move about a bit more at 6 months.

BunnyRuddington · 16/10/2025 08:04

I had one that was a really fussy baby. I know you’ve said that there’s no allergies but could it be Tongue Tie? That was the problem got us. Have a read of this article and see what you think.

I fell down a bit of a rabbit hole at the time on the internet and thought they were a possibly a high needs baby but looking back it was most probably the undiagnosed TT.

The good news is that by 12 months they were waking and talking and very happy once mobile, they were cruising furniture from about 9 months and we have a close bond.

12 Features and Characteristics of a High Need Baby

In some ways, all babies are high need babies, and most babies have high needs in at least one area. Identify these areas with 12 features of a high need baby.

https://www.askdrsears.com/topics/health-concerns/fussy-baby/high-need-baby/12-features-high-need-baby/

Bethymum · 16/10/2025 08:45

Thanks, he had his tongue tie released at 6 weeks.

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noramoo · 16/10/2025 10:35

Hi OP, sorry to hear you're struggling! I can relate, as my DD was very much the same as a baby. I think some children just don't enjoy babyhood and spend a lot of time frustrated. Every milestone we saw improvement to her mood and now at 18 months old she is wonderful and to be honest an "easy" toddler! Meanwhile, friends whose babies were content and placid are now facing challenges in toddlerhood (tantrums etc). Point being - nothing is permanent and things constantly change, especially when it comes to child development.

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