Baby won’t settle with others

[Mummymurph]

Hi all,

my little one is now 5 months old and isn’t settling for other people other than myself or dad, we have a wedding where I am a bridesmaid and will be away overnight. He used to be absolutely fine with other but is now screaming until I take him.

the person having him overnight on the wedding is a very close friend and is at our house once maybe twice a week so little one is used to her but won’t settle at bedtime or for naps.

I really don’t know what to do or how to help 😩 the wedding is in two weeks and it’s really worrying me that he isn’t going to be okay whilst we are away. Can anyone give any advice?

If it’s only 1 night, he will be ok. It may take time for your baby to fall asleep with your friend. They will manage. Maybe they could go for a walk with the baby to make him tired. Just make your friend see baby more often & leave him with her for a few hours. If baby has a dummy or bottle , that will help both friend & baby to bond more if friend could feed & play with him. They will be fine

A friend similarly tried to leave her 6 month old with her MIL, who baby saw twice a week and is a lovely grandma. She ended up calling her at midnight as baby had been screaming straight for 5 hours.

I haven't left my 1 year old overnight for the same reason yet.

5 months is very, very small. I wouldn't assume they could be left overnight at this age.

This is developmentally normal OP. When your baby was younger he was less aware of who was caring for him as long as someone was, but now he is attached to you and DH as his caregivers. You can still go the wedding, it may be difficult for your friend bur he will go to sleep eventually. Or as you're a bridesmaid maybe you could go and DH stay behind?