Do modern parents overthink everything?

[warrenettie]

Sometimes I wonder if we’ve all gone a bit overboard with how much we overthink parenting these days. Every decision — from what snacks to give the kids to how much screen time is “acceptable” — turns into a mini research project.
I catch myself reading five different articles about whether blueberries are a choking hazard or how many minutes of iPad time is too much, and then I realise my parents never thought twice about this stuff. We all survived, didn’t we?
Don’t get me wrong, it’s great that we have so much information available, but at what point does it just make us more anxious?
Do you think modern parenting is too intense, or is it just that we’re more aware and doing better by our kids?

Please take no notice of other's judgement. Do what you feel is right at every juncture. . The proof of the pudding comes right at the end whether that be 16, 18 25 or older. If you've done your best and used only your own judgement then there's nothing more to be said. But please enjoy them on your way.

Yes.

My DD has a first baby and she's been reading so much stuff written by so-called 'experts' (mainly journalists who have had a baby and think they are now experts) and it just causes more anxiety.

Instead of using old fashioned common sense, young mums are bombarded with 'experts' who lay down the law- which is in fact just their opinions.

All the 'weaning' advice on introducing each food separately etc etc and the choking anxiety is creating more issues that it solves.

How can we stop it?

Sounds like you do yeah

Yes, they do. And it’s ridiculous.
But mostly because the way how modern parents are raising the children is ridiculous.

They feed them ultra-processed junk, then worry about their sugar intake and nutrition. They give them iPads, then frantically research how screen time is damaging their brains.

It’s not normal. People need to learn to say no — to stop giving in to things just to “make life easier,” only to end up making it so much harder than it needs to be.

Bloody hell I wish mine had. Would have saved me a lot on therapy.

This. Many our harshest critics now act like they never were as kids are clearly doing well or aren't in our lives at all.

Though TBH with kids this age it was hard with judgement - everyone having an opinion they have to share and tell you what you are doing wrong.

Plus other parents acting like if you don't do exactly what they did your causing damage - because you doing the same with possibly a very different child/conditions somehow makes their approach "more right".

I do find many more younger parents are "gentle"/lax and utterly unconcerned about their kid impact on others - and I do find that annoying becauseit impacts on me and my family but it's mostly as to them it's not an issue where as many other thing round child rearing gets endlessly considered.