6 month old baby suddenly won’t sleep in crib?

[NKBH]

Help!!!! I am literally desperate!

My daughter is 6 months old, she’s always been an okayish sleeper (she generally woke around 3-4am for a feed, realised she didn’t need a feed about a month ago but she would still need resettling at this time). 3 weeks ago we moved her into her own room because she exceeded the weight limit for her next to me, all was fine and the first few nights were pretty much the same as when she was in our room, except when she woke up at 4/5am she couldn’t resettle and would wake up every 15 mins, unless she was being held or came into our bed (which we’d never done until this point). For a couple of weeks that time would be anywhere from 3am to 6am.

At the same time as this i’ve been trying to get her to do naps in her cot, she always did this in her next to me with a bit of resettling but for some reason in her cot she has max 30 mins in the morning and max 20 mins at lunchtime, meaning for the past week her day time sleep has been rubbish and so has her night sleep. She’s now coming into our bed some time between 9pm and midnight, I can sit there for hours resettling her and will keep on putting her dummy in but as soon as I pull my hands away she brings her arms up, rubs her eyes, pulls the dummy out of her mouth, smacks it around on the cot and then cries for the dummy. I’ve tried getting rid of the dummy, inconsolable crying for hours. I’ve tried resettling all night, i got 20 minutes of sleep each hour in the rocking chair in her room. I’ve tried lengthening wake windows, she decided to not sleep at all. I literally don’t know what to do, as soon as she comes into bed she drops off silently and sleeps till 7am.

Her room is exactly like ours, black out blind, gro egg light, sleeping bag, heating on 20 degrees all night.

Yesterday I did contact naps all day so she would at least get some daytime sleep in the hopes she wouldn’t be overtired for bedtime but she went to sleep at 7pm, woke up at 9:20, 10, 10:40 and then wouldn’t go back to sleep so came in bed at 11:10.

Daytime routine is:
7am wake and bottle
8am solids breakfast
9/9:30 nap for 30 mins
11am bottle
12pm nap till around 2ish
3pm bottle
4:30 nap for 20-30 mins
5pm solids dinner
6:20 bottle downstairs
6:40 bath
7pm asleep

To add: she is teething on the top two teeth but when her bottom ones came through it didn’t affect sleep, she is also very close to rolling back to front and sitting up independently so I have no idea if any of these contribute.

Sending solidarity @NKBH its awful when you’re not sleeping and also need to function the next day. At that age there is so many things it could be - teething, developmental leap, viral illness, regression.

She may just be taking a bit of time to get used to her new room. Every child is different so there’s no one rule fits all. If you’re happy co-sleeping, that’s a great way for everyone to get sleep! It doesn’t have to be forever and you can gradually try and transition her back to her own room in a week / few weeks etc. I coslept with my little until 7 months - which I really enjoyed and would have carried on but then she was waking up every 45 mins wanting to be attached to the boob which was why we changed tact.

If you really don’t like co-sleeping or not working for you you can try sleep training. There’s loads of methods and loads of “no cry” methods too. Personally we used Ferber which does involve crying - I’m not going to lie it is hard for the first few nights, so be prepared, I would make sure you have reinforcements like a partner / friend etc as it isn’t nice hearing your baby cry but then after 3-5 days for us she started sleeping for 5-6 hr stints and being able to self soothe and we all had a much better night sleep. Even after that she goes through phases - teething/ poorly / nightmares - but mostly since then we’ve been able to pop her down at bedtime and she sleeps through.

Daytime routine seems ok to me - although my dc is nearly a year older than yours so I can’t really remember what we did- only thing that I can think of making sure they’re full up before bed so increase solid meal? I’ve seen others suggest on here before big bowl of porridge at nighttime as may be hunger if going through a growth spurt ?

Sleep feels like it’s so important to nail - but just remmeber everything is a phase, it does feel awful when you’re in it but it does pass ! you really do need to do what works for you and your family and whatever it takes to survive. Good luck 🤍

Just seen your Edit - don’t try sleep training if they’re teething 🤣🤣 I would suggest if she’s definitely teething or unwell just pop her in bed with you from the off - you all get a good nights sleep - which will probably mean she might nap better in the day and reassess when she’s better. They react differently to everything so it sounds like she was fine with her first teeth but clearly isn’t coping now bless her.

Mine's doing the same, except his cot is in our room. I think it's a mixture of teething, muscle changes/ache from learning to crawl, changes in gas etc from introducing solids and a dash of learning that he can choose to be a pain in the arse. Nursery can get him to nap for an hour, I haven't worked out how! I looked at sleep training, but it doesn't seem worth it because you have to restart every time something changes and commits you to a routine.