I don't use sites like this much at all which you could probably tell by how often I post things but I tend to turn here when very lost and have no idea what to do.I am a mother to a 9 year old boy with ASD and a daughter who is 14 with additional needs just on the verge of her diagnosis.My son will not go to school which is causing a lot of problems.I have tried to do what they suggest for me to try which either doesn't work or he simply won't do it.He goes to a mainstream school but is in an advance resources facility for children with ASD.He goes to school on a minibus which picks him up and drops him off which is a big help,I can only manage to get him to school if he is asleep which tends to be just around the time his bus is due as he suffers really bad sleep deprivation where he can be awake for 3 days so was not able to get to school from Monday through to Thursday morning which is where things came to a head with the school.I am in constant contact with the school about the situation and tell them everything that is going on like he has not bathed for 2 weeks as he has refused so having to wait until he sleeps and sponge bath him then so to speak,he has been hurting me a lot more often and with loads more force for really no reason what's so ever.I was due to go into school Thursday morning for a meeting with them about the situation but he would not get dressed in order for him to go school so I let them know what was going on.Then about 10:10 that morning I get a phone call from the school which I answered and it was a teacher who is not my son's teacher and me and her have a past where things is not great between us and she said can I get him to school today.I told her what has been going on although I really despise the woman,then she told me she is coming to my house with his teacher to have the meeting at the house,I'm to send my son out of the way like his bedroom so we can talk and then they are going to take him to school their selves.I said I don't think that was the best thing to do to which she kept tellintears as this is not a new situation but just had no help with not asking they are coming to which I said to her I said no that I didn't want her there to which she said that it has been a long time (that was day 4) since he had been seen and that she wants to make sure that he was ok.I was outraged and had taken what she was saying like as if he was hurt by me or something,would you not feel that way?Then she kept saying she was coming in to my house she will be there in 20 minutes,which we was going backwards and forwards for about 15 minutes at this point.Even half way through this conversation she said ok can I try get him to school today I said that I would as he will fall asleep at some point today as he was into his 4th day of being awake and would like to just add that he also had a really bad seizure in August as well .She then said that I had 20 minutes to get him there or she is taking it further to which I responded don't put a timer on me like I'm one of the children I will get him there when I can by 1 pm at the latest.Then after I agreed to what she suggested she then said no we are coming to your house we will be there in 20 minutes again so I said I won't answer the door I will bring him in.The woman was deranged.Cut a very long story short I managed to get him there by 11:47 am to his teacher sat in the office,as I arrived she was smirking at me,8 just said to her that they have a healthy but not a happy child,then that teacher came in and started again in front of my child and they said that I had to stay there and have a talk about it all,I was not in the right frame of mind as I had been awake for my 6th day no sleep at that point and was very upset with what had just been happening in the last hour or so.Its really funny how my son's teacher was just there when I was angry at the other teacher and didn't hear a single thing she said to me in which I said was impossible as the other teacher told me she was there.Im so angry they said I'm to put him on the minibus with his phone in his bag not allowed to play with it and that should be enough for him to get on the minibus for school if awake.Im flabbergasted,like hello have you not just listened to what I was saying to them.He didn't go to school today as he was at the pediatricians,so I told her what was going on and I ended breaking down in tears as I've been asking and telling her about the situation for a very long time and to make matters worse no advice from her just that she was sorry she wished she had more time to speak with me but doesn't and then walked me out the office.Im tired and fed up anyone have advice?Was I being unreasonable?