I completely lost it...

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Thankyou so much in advance for reading..

I was taking my two boys (7 and 2) on a scooter ride home from School through the woods.. it started off with ny my 7 year asking me 'why I didn't get out of the way... he has not been sleeping well recently - he spends half the week with me and half the week with his dad... he's been saying he wants his dad so much - on the walk home today he started saying he wants more time with dad - that he wants to go and stay with him..

i felt very upset hearing this but I listened and said I understood and we would try and work it out.. he just kept saying he wanted to go to his dads.. my 2 year old kept scooting off in the other direction.. I managed to get them on the path home but the 2 year old kept screaming as his scooter kept going faster than he could manage...after a while of trying to help him I had to put him in the buggy and he started screaming again and having a meltdown - wrestling as I was trying to get him in... at the same time my son started telling me 'mum a car is coming on the path' (it's a walking path but it was the woodland maintenance van coming down very slowly) he was shouting it over and over while the baby was screaming.. after managing to stay calm up to this point I suddenly lost it and shouted 'stop!'

I then preceded to storm off with the buggy and then as I couldn't get through the really heavy gate proceeded to have some kind of angry out of control wrestle with it ( my son saw) 😩

I got them home and apologised to my son and said I was so sorry but I just lost it.. we had lots of hugs and some wrestling time as he loves to wrestle..

I've feel so so awful about my behaviour .. I've never done this before.. I feel like I'm generally calm and easy going with them and barely every shout..

I feel terrible and like I've scarred my son at seeing this behaviour..??? It's really worried me..

Has anyone else ever lost it infront of their kids? And please no negative comments.. I already feel so terrible about it..

Don’t overthink it op. We all lose it at times. You did the right thing my talking to your son about it. Be kind to yourself x

Thankyou @Macherie53🙏 xx

Definitely don’t overthink it! He shouldn’t have been going on at you when you were clearly busy and I think 7 is old enough to see a bit of a reaction when their behaviour is not up to scratch, which I don’t think it was in this situation. It’s not unreasonable for him to be calm and stick nearby when you are out and they’re on scooters etc.

sounds v stressful for you- I hope you find some respite. Sending a hug xxxx

None of us parent like a parenting blog with flowery language and nice graphics. Sometimes these shitty moments happen and you can't always avoid them.

That's fine, look it's not something anyone aims for but it's not first time he's going to see someone get upset. If it is still in your head, you could make it a teaching experience. Talk to him about what happened, how each of you were feeling and explore what could have been done differently. And how someone sees someone they care about struggling, they could offer to help. It could end up being a positive thing

Parents are allowed to have emotions too, you've had a bad day and that's okay!

Don't sweat it. You apologized to your child and that's the big thing, that's a good lesson to teach, melt downs happen to us all and you've shown him an example of how to act afterwards.

Try to let it go & I hope tomorrow is a better day for you. ❤

Yes, on a few occasions; not proud. Often it's helpful in a way as it gives them boundaries and lets them know you're human.

I admitted I'd messed up and apologised, which you have done, and like PP said, it was a learning opportunity. My children adore me; they are teenagers now.

Every parent has lost it at some point. It’s normal. It’s the repair afterwards which is important.

You shouted stop? That doesn’t even count as losing it op!

You are doing well if that's the only time you have ever lost it.

I would have shouted more than stop 😂

I still remember the time I smashed an entire set of plates in our firegrate because my kids were refusing to carry their used dinner plates into the kitchen. I'd had enough and just piled them all up and dropped them very deliberately onto the tiles. Huge noise, impressed kids.

They're all adults and not in the least bit scarred. Although I do have to say that it didn't really encourage them to take their plates into the kitchen in future.

I once lost it over a breakfast cereal they insisted on buying that I FUCKING KNEW THEY WOULDN'T EAT.

That was years ago and obviously I'm over it now

OP , we've all done it. Sounds like you handled it brilliantly and lovingly at the end. Give yourself a break.

@arethereanyleftatall i think it was him watching 'the angry, psycho gate wrestle' that i was more concerned about 🤣 he actually brought it up at dinner to DH and DS was laughing about it 🙏 so I'm hoping no permanent damage done!

Thankyou so so much everyone, I'm so grateful for your replies and stories of times you have also lost it! I'm also so glad to hear you now all have great relationships with your kids after such events 🥰❤️🙏😅

"Has anyone else ever lost it in front of their kids?"

Yep. Sometimes daily.

Oh OP I was expecting you to have screamed 'shut the fuck up' and slammed the gate. That would be most people's idea of 'lost it' and would be bad. You told DS to stop and struggled with the gate. That's ok.

Thankyou so much everyone 🙏🙏❤️❤️

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Shut up, shut up, shut up, Everyone!