I have a almost 2 year old, 22 months just. Dropped his first nap around ten months and has had one nap a day until around 19 1/2 months. At this point he just refused to nap. He started to want a nap around 4/5pm and would be kept awake and bed 5:30/6. It took a few weeks and I kept trying to get him to nap, but it is just gone and not a strike (I don't believe he is ready to drop it at all but if he napped 4/5 he would be awake until midnight for sure as always needed consistent wake windows). Manage to get his bed time to mostly 6pm and going to keep aiming for the 7 it was before the nap dropped. So anyways I don't mind so much no nap, it makes put down very easy and he is now managing very well and not trying to nap even at 4/5 he just waits for bed. This issue is the split nights returning ðŸ˜ðŸ˜ðŸ˜ he did it here and there before but overall he's a decent sleeper, either staying in bed 6/7-6/7 (with nap) or waking around 4 to come to my bed and went back down very fast most the time. We sometimes would have 2/3 days of what I call a dance party I don't want to be invited to anytime 1-4ish. They never went on for more than 4 nights. And towards end of dropping second nap these started again, nap went and the nights returned to pretty decently sleeping through. It's been 2/3 weeks now and it just seems to be getting worse. Last night was 12-5 wake. He is so tired today and still refusing to nap. I am so tired and struggling.
I don't mind no nap (can't make him), don't mind cosleeping at times (it was getting rare and he was sleeping well with me so I do not mind this nor want to end cosleeping if he needs altogether, I also don't think this is the issue). But all advice is drop nap, longer nap, bedtime earlier or later. And I have tried all these things and it makes no difference. When he was napping he had split nights. Now no nap still split nights (worse and not sporadic). He has a consistent bedtime routine, eats very well during day, and is definitely not hot or cold. He has quite time around the time he did nap. He doesn't have sugar, he barely watches TV and is active, bedroom is blacked out and gentle music to drop to sleep and then off. This has been the way since he was born and the sleep has never been as bad as it is now. Sorry long, I just can't find anyone who can seem help! It's all fixed by dropping the nap for most of seems but I can't get him to nap! I am doing this alone and I'm just so very tired.