Feel so frustrated

[Howlinstein]

Hi new dad here to a 2 day old baby. I’ve never been more in love and in awe of my wife who has had a C-section and given birth to our beautiful daughter.

However I’m massively stressed and struggling with frustration when she cries which I totally understand is her way of communicating. I have awful feelings of thinking maybe we shouldn’t have had children, I feel so guilty about my wife having a C-section and I don’t know how to make it less irritating. I feel like I’m just going through the motions with my daughter.

Breathe ❤️

It's such early days and totally overwhelming. Try and just go with the motions and be there for them both.

I had a C section and was going for a small walk after a couple of days. It gets better quickly. I remember trying to move while in hospital was just awful.

Enjoy this lovely time

Thank you Holly I’ve been making sure she’s had her medication and I’ve been making sure she’s eating by making food for her and waking her for feeds and plenty of cuddles etc.

Congratulations on your wonderful news. Just try and help your other half as much as you can. It will get better x

That sounds perfect. That's all she needs! Keep doing what you're doing.

Try and get some support from family and friends. People popping in and visiting you, your wife and baby, can be really helpful. Obviously depends on whether you are comfortable with this but I remember finding it helpful and less lonely when things were a bit stressful.

Early days are so tough OP. Don't worry about the bond, it will come. Loop earplugs are a godsend for the crying. Do you have a sling? Babywearing helped us so much in the early weeks. Hang in there, it gets easier.

Thanks HG. I have some loops but they don’t block the sound out or anything really. Which ones would you recommend please? Yes we have a sling but we’ve basically spent the last day home in bed

I promise it will get easier, when the baby is crying it's normally because she's hungry, newborns feed LOADS. Mine also cried every time his nappy was wet, one day we went through 25 nappies!
Just keep doing what you're doing, bring your partner loads of snacks and water, take the baby for a bit so she can sleep, stay snuggled up at home until you're ready