9-5 mums, what’s your routine?

[Zombieof3]

Hi all,

I work Monday - Friday 9-5 but recently I feel quite guilty and very lazy. I don’t feel like I do enough with the kids or house hold chores etc. This is the routine for us;

6am - wake up, get dressed etc
6.30 - kids wake up and get ready for school
8am - eldest two go to school for breakfast club, I leave at the same time
8.30 - dh drops youngest off to school.
3.30pm - dh picks up 2/3 children
5/6 pm- I’m home, everyone has dinner
i I have a bath, kids have a bath, complete any homework and reading,
kids chill out until bedtime either on iPads or colouring etc.
9pm - kids go to bed
9.30 - I go to bed

this routine leaves nearly everything to my dh as he only works four hour shifts in the evening. I feel awfully guilty but I am so tired after work, the idea of adding anything extra feels to much. This usually means I manic clean on the weekend and spend so much time cleaning I don’t actually have much time to do things with the kids on weekends. Any tips other than me not being so lazy I guess?

Why do you feel lazy and guilty? Sounds like you are doing a lot. If your dh is at home all day, can he do more cleaning?

I think it’s because in comparison he does a lot more I. The home.
He is the one that manages most routine appointments, he does majority of the cooking and cleaning, birthday parties etc whereas I’m in work. I feel like I’m missing out on a lot of my kids lives and not contributing enough but I am just so drained after work. The role I’m in is incredibly mentally draining but I love it for the most part. I guess I feel bad because it’s not the traditional set up really, mums are still expected to do majority of childcare and household chores etc and I’m not.

Then I feel bad because my partner doesn’t really have a break, he’s at home doing the cleaning, appointments etc and then has to go straight to work. It’s hard to find a balance in it all.