To what extent do you ‘make’ your children fit in with what you want?

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DD is two and a quarter. The nap is starting to be slowly phased out. As a general rule of thumb if she sleeps until after seven the nap won’t happen. Today was 645. So a bit on the cusp.

I’ve decided not to put her down for the nap because it makes my life at bedtime so much easier. But she probably could do with one. I guess I’m just wondering if I’m being a bit mean or not.

It's a perfectly normal time to drop a nap. Do what suits you.

I think DS was about that age or a couple of months older when he finally stopped napping.

Thanks. It’s a funny time - I remember DS (now nearly five) was a bit older but he did wake very early so needed it for a while longer. She seems quite happy anyway!

You can’t do everything exactly as the child wants or needs and there is no harm in a child learning that at all

but you are always right to think “is this the right thing. Am I being too selfish”

always question but don’t judge yourself

That depends if she will turn into a screaming nightmare by 4pm if she doesn't nap! You could be swapping one problem for another.

In this situation, I'd go with what suits you in terms of naps. I do remember the awkward time when they sort of needed one but didn't need it. A half hour or so rest on the sofa with stories or a bit of gentle TV if you do screens tended to help and a slightly earlier bedtime.

She doesn’t generally. A bit more emotional than normal! My main ‘worry’ is a danger nap on the school run but generally I’m safe.

It just means she will go to bed at 645 - otherwise she’s pushing 8, and that means I get some quality time with no1 and he’s in bed by half seven. Thanks for replies though. I guess I’m just checking myself really.

Yes it's fine, I have similar problem except mine is over 3 now. Most of the time I give her a nap but I wake her after about 30 mins because otherwise she'll be up until nearly 9pm and I get no time to myself as that is my bedtime. Im a SAHM so it's not sustainable for me to never have a break so I don't feel mean waking her up from her nap, I just see it as a necessity.