Pre school struggles

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Hi everyone
I have a 2.5 YO ( 31 months little girl ) who ‘ s sensitive but not prone to meltdowns for now when said no or redirected , she whines a bit but accepts it . She is overly polite , always tidies after herself and often apologises if she does something wrong , she plays well with one to one toddlers , has a very advanced back and forth conversation being able to verbalise how she feels since she was 2 and now asks and answers whys questions etc . She is very curious and both overwhelmed and excited about new places which results in her not being able to sit or enjoy the place . She is highly sensitive, empathetic, imaginative, and verbally advanced. She has no issues sleeping or sharing her toys and is very sociable with kids and people but I can see she feels emotions like sadness and pain to a different level than her peers . She asks lots of questions or notice details others don’t .
She is excited for playgroups and she does a lot of parallel play .. doesn’t push or hit or cry if someone takes her toy away but she does move around a lot between activities if there’s a lot of noise and chaos whilst if it is just us she can sit for longer and books

So On one hand She has struggles with waiting in line for the playgroups and wants to go in immediately and gets really overwhelmed if she can’t like deep breathing and anxious , but she can wait for her turn on the slide . She is that sort of toddler who’s been described as “ independent and knows what she wants “ and that’s apparently a problem .
She gets panicky if her bunny falls and only parallel plays in busy environments but doesn’t kick push or bit never did . She loves talking to adults and says hello to people . Sleeps and eats extremely well . If I ask her to please stop crying she does and she follows the rules and she knows at the library to sit still and she does it IF it is only with me and no one else there like kids . She shrieks in fear if someone raises his/ her voice . If I ask her do you want food ? She says no thank you etc

If there is another child at the library she gets a bit overwhelmed not that she cries or anything but wants to get up and wander and doesn’t know what to do with herself

What do I do when I approach school

Sorry, she sounds lovely and age appropriate but not quite sure what the problem is or what you are asking? Why are you approaching the pre-school?

She sounds like a normal toddler to me OP. Which part are you worried about? Some kids are more sensitive than others.

Please put school out of your mind. She is very little and has lots of growing up to do before school, presumably you mean reception class.

That’s an extremely detailed account of a normal child, reminds me of doing a Child Study! What is the question about the preschool! All children have their quirks, anxieties, strengths and limitations, not sure what you’re asking

This might be the poster who is angling for you all to tell her the child has autism.

Sorry i should have been more detailed about pre school , I also meant nursery next year . I just wish I could find some useful tips to help her transition to new environments. It feels like it is overwhelming taking her out at the library because she gets so anxious and excited if she sees another child that she cannot focus anymore on what she was doing . It is a mixture of anxiety and excitement when we take her to the farm that she starts panicking but at the same time doesn’t want to leave 🙂

At 2 and a half she can't manage her feelings of excitement and it tips into overwhelmed. This is because she just can't regulate those feelings yet. It's something that will develop as her brain develops. This is totally normal for her age. Some children find different feelings more difficult than others, they don't develop these skills in a neat linear way. Another child might not be able to cope with anger or disappointment or separation etc. Toddlers are pretty irrational by nature aren't they and that's because their neurological system and cognitive function are still developing. Are you accidentally heightening her with your own anxiety? Are you talking about other children too much so it's becoming a really big deal to see them?

Every time I see a post like this, the poster emphasises how verbal their child is and how their child can explain how they are feeling. You need to totally separate verbal maturity and emotional maturity. What you have is a normal toddler, who gets excited and overwhelmed like toddlers do. The fact that she can talk well does not change that, it is a red herring.