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Worst day with 6yo and behaviour

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OrangeYellowCup · 28/09/2025 20:49

I just need some guidance after being snappy and angry with my DS all day who has been acting up. he just doesn't listen to me and acts up a lot, especially since the summer, and I don't know how to get him to stop. He is also quite rude and I can't seem to nip it in the bud. I'm just not enjoying being around him at the moment.

so today, I took my 6yo DS and 4yo DD to see grandparents today. I gave them a choice to go by car or train and they both chose train. As we were getting ready to leave, the 6yo insisted on taking a suitcase with him. I explained we didn't need to take a suitcase (cabin size) as we were only going for the day, the trains would be busy and I couldn't help him carry it if he got tired as I am 30 weeks pregnant and quite big. Queue the crying, anger hitting, calling me an idiot etc. all over a suitcase. I said he could take a backpack and suitcases were for holidays etc.

He was absolutely kicking off and, in my tiredness and haste to get out of the house, I said he could take it but if he couldn't wheel it everywhere and got tired we would leave it behind as I wouldn't carry it.

trains only go every 30 mins and it takes 2hrs to get there and I didn't want to miss the next train so I foolishly let him take it.

we missed our train because of this bloody suitcase. I got very cross and blamed him and said it was his fault we were late and I told him I was very cross with him. I was so angry I could barely look at him but I know this was my second mistake. He's only 6, I'm the adult and shouldn't have let him take it in the first place. My dad was like this with me and I don't have a great relationship with him now.

the rest of the day I spent telling him not to wheel it into people (he wasn't looking where he was going) not to rush around etc. on the train back he was being loud and noisy, and making unnecessary comments about how people look which I was very surprised about and I told him quite harshly to stop talking.

I feel like I've ruined what was supposed to be a good day. He was subdued at my parents house. I don't know where this behaviour is coming from but it must be me.

we Don't talk negatively about people's appearances at home at all and this behaviour really shocked and embarrassed me.

DH was away today visiting a sick relative but was back when we got home and DS kept saying he's a bad kid, mummy is very angry and he also keeps hitting himself on the head.

He's been addicted to Minecraft since the summer but we only let him play on weekends but his behaviour is so bad I might ban it full stop. I don't know how else to address this. I really don't want him to hate me but this day is going to be a core memory isn't it.

Thank you for reading if you get this far.

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Nantescalling · 30/09/2025 19:05

OrangeYellowCup · 28/09/2025 20:51

I just want to add I'm totally ashamed of how I behaved today. My patience is very limited at the moment and being pregnant doesn't help.

I don't think you should be feeling ashamed after what you've just been through. Everything it like Mount Everest at 30 weeks. The only thing to feel bad about is letting him win the battle of the suitcase which was actually the real guilty party!

AgeingGreycefully · 30/09/2025 19:12

Don’t be too hard on yourself, but something is obviously worrying him and I wonder if it’s the new baby coming? Is he feeling a bit insecure about it? The only way he can handle all these big feelings is to act out and get allllll of your attention that way? I hope you get to the bottom of it and that he can come to understand that being a big protective brother to new baby, as well as little sister, and a great help to mummy means he’s just as important as ever!! Best wishes.

GiveDogBone · 30/09/2025 19:17

No matter how tired you are, how difficult it is, etc you can’t give into tantrums. It’s all downhill from there.

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Pryceosh1987 · 30/09/2025 00:25

It sounds like your child has a mental issue. ADHD. This can be controlled but it takes effort, banning him form games wouldnt improve things.Teaching lessons may help though. Such as helping him to see the importance of being nice and doing good things.

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Pistachiocake · 30/09/2025 21:00

Please stop being so judgemental of yourself. Be kind to yourself and have a rest if you can-ask friends/family to help out. You deserve some time too, and I'd happy help a friend in your situation, or in the future if my children have their own kids, I'd help them and their partners. Your son might be playing out things from school (my friend's son was an angel at school, but would act up how he saw his peers act when he got home). No parent is calm all the time.

labourthenewrightwingparty · 30/09/2025 21:17

Pryceosh1987 · 30/09/2025 00:25

It sounds like your child has a mental issue. ADHD. This can be controlled but it takes effort, banning him form games wouldnt improve things.Teaching lessons may help though. Such as helping him to see the importance of being nice and doing good things.

Good lord! ADHD isn’t a mental issue. OPs 6 year old sounds like a standard 6 year old, one who is being a dick that day but neither the less a normal 6 year old.

dementedmummy · 30/09/2025 21:25

OrangeYellowCup · 28/09/2025 20:49

I just need some guidance after being snappy and angry with my DS all day who has been acting up. he just doesn't listen to me and acts up a lot, especially since the summer, and I don't know how to get him to stop. He is also quite rude and I can't seem to nip it in the bud. I'm just not enjoying being around him at the moment.

so today, I took my 6yo DS and 4yo DD to see grandparents today. I gave them a choice to go by car or train and they both chose train. As we were getting ready to leave, the 6yo insisted on taking a suitcase with him. I explained we didn't need to take a suitcase (cabin size) as we were only going for the day, the trains would be busy and I couldn't help him carry it if he got tired as I am 30 weeks pregnant and quite big. Queue the crying, anger hitting, calling me an idiot etc. all over a suitcase. I said he could take a backpack and suitcases were for holidays etc.

He was absolutely kicking off and, in my tiredness and haste to get out of the house, I said he could take it but if he couldn't wheel it everywhere and got tired we would leave it behind as I wouldn't carry it.

trains only go every 30 mins and it takes 2hrs to get there and I didn't want to miss the next train so I foolishly let him take it.

we missed our train because of this bloody suitcase. I got very cross and blamed him and said it was his fault we were late and I told him I was very cross with him. I was so angry I could barely look at him but I know this was my second mistake. He's only 6, I'm the adult and shouldn't have let him take it in the first place. My dad was like this with me and I don't have a great relationship with him now.

the rest of the day I spent telling him not to wheel it into people (he wasn't looking where he was going) not to rush around etc. on the train back he was being loud and noisy, and making unnecessary comments about how people look which I was very surprised about and I told him quite harshly to stop talking.

I feel like I've ruined what was supposed to be a good day. He was subdued at my parents house. I don't know where this behaviour is coming from but it must be me.

we Don't talk negatively about people's appearances at home at all and this behaviour really shocked and embarrassed me.

DH was away today visiting a sick relative but was back when we got home and DS kept saying he's a bad kid, mummy is very angry and he also keeps hitting himself on the head.

He's been addicted to Minecraft since the summer but we only let him play on weekends but his behaviour is so bad I might ban it full stop. I don't know how else to address this. I really don't want him to hate me but this day is going to be a core memory isn't it.

Thank you for reading if you get this far.

Get rid of Minecraft - creative mode or not. As one with 2 sons who only got on it when they were 12, do yourself a favour and ditch it. The behaviour when being set screen limits is wild. Also check if he is on you tube. I've had to ban it as again them watching so called creators do stupid stuff or watching people play Minecraft, I don't know what it is but it's sends kids wild. Good luck with no 3 - this stage of pregnancy is no fun when it's your 3rd never mind with other little people in town. Also if he is calling you an idiot - where is he getting it from because there's someone in his circle of influence with some questionable behaviour if he thinks this is acceptable. Lastly he might be feeling a bit all over the shop with baby no 3 arriving. Can you arrange to take him to the cinema or bowling or something just the two of you as a pre baby arriving treat? He might be more willing to open up a bit on what is going on. I had similar wild behaviour in the house with my oldest and it turned out he was being bullied at school and was holding it together until he got home to his safe space to explode x

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