Starting preschool later

[lisa270988]

Hi
My little boy is 4 in December he has just started preschool after the summer holidays but its awful the communication is terrible and he hates it.

I am thinking of sending him somewhere else and can get a place for him at a different setting in the new term after Xmas.

However he will be 4 years old by then and only just starting starting preschool which means he will only have 2 terms before starting I'm worried this isn't enough! As lots of children start a lot younger.

I am SAHM that's why I haven't sent him in anywhere till now.

Has anyone else started child at a similar age? And have they been OK at school? I just really wanted him to start before 4 and do a whole school year before going into reception

Thanks x

Does the school he is going to have a nursery attatched? I would ring them and see if they have a space.

No they don't unfortunately

What do you mean by the communication is awful
?

Has he just started in the nursery of the school he will start next September? Or are you moving him to the nursery attached to where he starts next September?

I've just had experience where the children have gone to a private nursery until they started school .
I think the transition into school is easier if a child is already in that schools nursery.
If you aren't happy take him out.

Is it at the school he will go to?

What does rubbish communication mean? School pre school isn't like private nursery with daily updates.

It's a little preschool that's just Run in a church hall. The school is attending don't have a nursery

At the end of the sessions they just open the door and say to child off you go and that's it! No hello no bringing the children out just let them out the door

What does he hate about it? Is there a reason the new place couldn’t start straight away? A bit earlier, but both mine started some time after their third birthday and that felt about right for us!

Oh, that’s fine. If you want a chat, then ask for a chat.

I predict a lot of threads from you once he starts school!

How often does he go?

What makes it so terrible?

If he's only started a couple of weeks ago and it's the first time he has been left, it will take a while to settle.

That's normal!

If you're worried, ask for a word.

I don't want a chat just a hello or something they don't give you any time. And when my little boy was crying and didn't want to go they didn't help me they just looked at me I thought they might come and take him of me

You don’t like the setting and don’t think highly of the staff

Your son is also not happy

I think if you’ve given it some time and this still stands, then really Op - move him. You don’t have faith in them, it’s dead in the water!

He is 4 OP. My summer born son would have been in reception at this point!

They are busy and focused on the end of the session.

If a child is very upset at the start, then yes of course, to acknowledge and encourage but really - they have very limited time with all the children arriving so do expect parents to take on the cajoling role here!

Yes I get that but they don't allow any parents in the building you have to drop at the drop so it's really hard to get him to walk through the door on his own when he upset

Sounds a bit unfriendly and this is your first experience of leaving DS in this sort of setting. In my experience I wouldn't like that either I like friendliness. Do you know any of the other parents.
I used to hate these sort of groups attached to churches or community centres if you're an outsider they can make you feel rubbish.
I wouldn't have any qualms about not taking him any more.
As there isn't a setting attached to the school either don't start him anywhere as he is fine with you or find a private nursery. I always find them more professional.

So really not the right setting for your son Op. or you.

He's only 3 and you are a sahm so enjoy your time with him. Pushing into somewhere he's not happy could set a pattern for later.
When it comes to starting school you can do all sorts of prep and he will be a year older than he is now.

The sending him out without a word isn’t typical for our pre-school, we always get a quick whether they’ve had a good day, who they’ve played with, perhaps a toileting update 😆 Plus you know what they’ve done from Tapestry on line. They don’t love you coming inside in the mornings but if a child was struggling they would. I’d hunt around for somewhere else if there are options. But it’s also perfectly usual to take a while to settle.