Please help

[JustPlumPombear]

Baby is 15 months has a cold and cough and all week I’ve had more then 5/6 hours sleep ( currently Thursday ) and she’s teething ( a true hell combo)
she won’t co sleep or be put in bed and I’m at a loss as she’s waking every 20 -40 mins in bed and co sleep
shes not got a temp; she’s not hot or cold she’s just sick and I knows she’s just a sick baby and needs me but I need sleep so badly she sleeps 40 mins in the day but just wants to be held in naps so I can’t nap then

point is I’m crying all day and night I’m running on 1 hour sleep. A day I’m exhausted I’m not sure I can literally live much longer living on such little sleep I have some heart issues going on and I’m having extreme palpitations ( awaiting checks) and I’m scared this is going to kill me mt health is suffering

I’m also dealing with the fact no one actually cares, I’ve asked her dad to have her even for a few hours , but that would mean helping me so he won’t he’s actually worked more so he says he can’t !
he likes me to suffer so that’s a no
and I’ve been messaging my mum too who has either ignored it or put a sad face
she’s hasn’t offered to let me get some sleep either
so I feel lonely exhausted and just so fed up I have a doctors app tomorrow just fyi but I’m feeling just so deflated like I’m living in hell with no one who cares
I even rang her dad 4 am last night crying my eyes out begging him to help me even offering to pay him he said im working I can’t and said I’m not staying in the phone to you all night and hung up and no he won’t like I said he would rather me suffer

There are also a huge range of sleep sounds, sleep stories, relaxation meditations, guided deep breathing etc on this app. If you can’t get actual sleep, relaxation is the next best thing.
. https://www.balanceapp.com/referral-social

If your sleep is so bad you feel you are going to keel over any moment in the daytime, and you have no-one to take her, if she is safe in a playpen with toys then do that and nap in the same room. But you will need a longer term plan,do reach out to HV and local groups, there are good people out there and it sounds like you could do with some friends who can help you out. End of my essay. Good luck.

Was just thinking of you OP -
manage to see someone or have things improved?

Thanks all for the advice, she’s much better basically back to normal I’m still ill 2 weeks later as I’ve just not had the sleep to recover,
ive been trying pick up put down method but still no hope to be honest
she is still waking really frequently im talking every 2-3 hours it’s exhausting im extremely fed up

She’s never been a good sleeper even as a newborn she was up every 45 mins
she’s healthy but just doesn’t sleep

i Just feel like my body isn’t coping I even had a week long heavy period and it’s made me feel horrific I just have the worst luck I feel like, I feel so depressed and I feel when u really need help you don’t have anyone, when she does sleep, I find myself laying there crying wonder when things will improve or if one day I’ll ever wake up feeling rested well and happy! I can hope lol

The early stages of childhood is the hardest for everyone, but i promise you keep focused, the good times will come. As the child grows up your hard work will have paid off.

I hope so it’s hard to see that one day maybe I’ll look back and things will be better
tonight been another bad night feel like I’ve jinxed it as I’ve not slept at alll tonight as she’s woke up too frequently

It sounds like you’re having a really difficult time. It might be an idea to take a good multivitamin multimineral supplement if you aren’t already and eat plenty of red meat or spinach, because childbirth and heavy periods can both leave you low in iron, which then doesn’t help your sleep or mood. A GP could test your levels. It becomes extra important to boost your own health when you’ve got more people depending on you than people you can depend on. Hope things get easier soon.

I think it’s time to go to the GP and both get a check up.
I remember not being able to sleep because I was so anxious I was going to be woken up and DD was sleeping. You need to find a way to get to sleep.

There was a charity in the past that had DBS volunteers who would come and help with babies (can’t remember name) not sure if it was local to me. I think you should call your Health Visitor and see what they can offer.

But even if you aren’t sleeping, you need to try and eat well and both get some fresh air. It’s sunny where I am today and as awful as a walk sounds, it will help, especially when there is sunshine as will help you both sleep.

Have you had her ears checked specifically? After all the aggro we had with molars and a cold and another cold, mine still wouldn't sleep even when
appeared to be better and healthy again and it turned out it was an ear infection. Needed antibiotics to clear.