Please help

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I’m a mum to a six month old that’s not seen him since he was 1.5 months. I’m so desperate and going out my mind, the dad took him from me when I had a bout of postnatal depression which led to him being taken from me. I am so regretful and feel so guilty for my actions but am feeling so much better now I’m medicated. The dad is now wanting to take me to the family courts and isn’t allowing me any access to my son and wants full custody only issue is I can’t afford a solicitor.
im struggling so much at the moment and so desperate for a cuddle with my lad, can anyone help or have any advice. Thanks in advance 🙂

If he is the primary carer which it sounds like he is could you see your baby while supervised? It might be good for your baby as well as you to know their Mum and Dad.

Do you qualify for legal aid? Find out from a solicitor if that is the case. They often give a 30 minute free consultation and should be able to tell you if you qualify.

Call Women's Aid - the father is being abusive by not letting you have contact. They will give you advice about what to do.

I don't know the details, but youcan submit an emergency court order (it might be called something else) that should let you have some regular contact with your son whilst a full court case is being decided. A solicitor can tell you what the name for it is.

Im so sorry you've been through this and am pleased youre feeling better. Let him go through the courts. They want safe parents to be part of children's lives. You dont need a solicitor. They may involve cafcass to see how you are doing but if you are doing well then they will support resuming contact.

Is your ex approachable at all? Can you ask him for contact supervised whilst he initiates the court process.

It’s a temporary measure whilst I got better but now he doesn’t want to give him back and won’t allow me any time at all.

Just to add, if you are taking your medication and can show you are able to care for your son safely, it is hugely unlikely the father would get full custody if it did go to court. I hope you are reunited with your little boy very soon

You need to involved social services asap.
it just doesn’t come down to the courts and to who has money and who doesn’t. It’s terrible of your ex to do this to you and to your baby who needs his
mum. Which country are you in? Get urgent advice from citizens advice bureau, go and social services asap if you are in the UK. Your asshole ex doesn’t not get to decide.

If you’re England then you don’t need a solictor. Other people on MN have recommended the Fathers for justice website for advice.