hi everyone i dont even know where to start tbh. i’ve got 3 boys (8, 5 and 2) and i literally cant cope rn. the older two are just so full on, school rang again today asking me to pick the 8yo up cos he’d been fighting again and apparently threw a chair when teacher told him to sit down. this happens like twice a week now and i feel like school think im not doing anything at home but i swear i am. i tell him off, take stuff away, no screen time, he just screams at me and slams doors.
then the 5yo is copying him constantly, he had a meltdown this morning cos i said he had to wear shoes not trainers and he tipped the cereal all over the floor then ran out the front door and i had to drag the 2yo with me to chase him down the street. by the time we got to school i was nearly crying and teacher just said we need to be more consistent with rules. they keep saying hes wetting himself on purpose for attention which just makes me feel like theyre blaming me again.
on top of that ive got the 2yo who has loads of appointments cos of health stuff and its a nightmare getting buses with all 3 of them when the older two are fighting and shouting. sometimes we get there and ive already missed half the appointment cos of late buses and trying to get them all out the door. the early years lady stopped coming cos apparently i wasnt engaging which just feels like they gave up on us.
evenings are honestly hell, they just wind each other up and scream for hours, the baby cries cos its so loud and then hes overtired and wont sleep. some nights its gone 11 and theyre still awake and i just sit on the floor crying cos i feel like a rubbish mum. everyone keeps saying its just boys being boys but surely it shouldnt be this hard? i dont have anyone to help, their dad doesnt bother and my mum lives hours away. i just feel like i cant do this much longer.
does anyone have any tips that actually work cos i feel like nothing does.