Can you make your child behave all the time?

[PerhapsPerhapsParsnips]

Help
DS is 7 and has just started junior school.
He keeps getting into trouble and put on warning. It’s for things like chatting when he should be listening, being too noisy when working, and play fighting with his friends.
I haven’t had a formal meeting with school yet but the teacher has mentioned these in the brief moments of handover. I was particularly concerned about the rough play reports but she said no one got hurt or cried. DS said it was a fun game. DS and I have talked about each incident and he seems quite sad about being in trouble and quite sure he doesn’t want to be in trouble again.
The consequences at school consist of being put on warning, then taken off warning if good, or lose privilege if bad. I believe privileges include choosing activities at a certain point of the week or the opposite is being kept in for break time. DS said he missed some of break time once but I believe that’s the only punishment he’s actually had.
I don’t know how to parent this. We of course tell him he should not speak when it’s time to listen, and not to be too noisy, and certainly to be gentle when playing. He understands and feels sad to be “on warning” and we start the next day positive about having a great day. And then before too long he’s back on warning.
I’ll talk to the teacher properly but what I don’t know is - is my DS a naughty boy? who will be on warning on and off for the entire year (or rest of his school life)? Can I do some parenting that will stop him chatting / being too loud / playing physically with other boys? Is that possible?
I have no fellow parents to confide in, everyone I know seems to be having it easy - they say their kids are doing great and being chosen as teacher’s pick of the week.

Junior school is a step up. It’s a bit like moving from reception to year 1. The expectations go up and some kids take a bit of time to adjust to meeting them.

your kid is not necessarily going to be in trouble for the rest of his time in school.

firstly, sounds like school are on it and he knows what the issues are. You’re only a few weeks into this transition and he won’t be the only one struggling. As the rest of the class settles down he will likely fall into line much more. Nearly everyone gets there by the time they move up a year.

that having been said, it might be worth thinking about the rough play a bit more.

does he have opportunities to do sports outside of school? Football, rugby, martial arts or similar? It can be good for kids to be in an environment where they can do a lot of physical activity.

also, does he have siblings who he does rough play with/does he do it with his dad? This can create issues as he feels like it’s ok to do stuff that school won’t tolerate between peers.

Thank you for your answer @Octavia64 , good points and hopefully all will settle down.
yes be plays rough with his brothers and dad, but I think he knows you can’t do that level to the guys at school. It will be reinforced.

If you tolerate rough play at home, you're not helping. The issue is what you've taught him at home isn't ok anywhere else.

Can I do some parenting that will stop him chatting / being too loud / playing physically with other boys? Is that possible? Yes absolutely you can. House rules that mirror the standards outside the house would help him hugely. No name calling, no rough play, no interrupting, no teasing.

You could have new house rules any time you choose.

And in case you're worried about 'energetic boys' and 'letting off steam' - games with rules and good behaviour standards are fine for this.