Hi, my children are 10 and 12, I normally do so much for them but now I am a single parent. I have arthritis throughout my body and some days I really struggle with doing everything. My son who’s 10 does anything I ask of him without creating and really tries to do a good job, my daughter on the other hand always tries to get her brother to do the jobs, creates massively if asked to do anything and if she does do a job does it badly so she hopes she’s not asked again. She does everything with the least possible effort or care.
I just asked her to peg the washing out and it ended up with her creating and me shouting at her. She thinks she does enough each week with going to school and doing her homework and doing well at school.
She begrudgingly pegged the washing out just now whilst crying then come into the kitchen and sat on the floor crying. I hate to say it but she is extremely lazy. Has anyone else experienced this and has it got better over time if you’re just persistent ?
the problem I’ve had before is I ask her to tidy her room then get fed up asking and find it easier to just do it myself but now I’m physically struggling, it’s hard to make her realise I need help . I am just so physically exhausted trying to do everything on my own.
Any constructive advice gratefully received