Married, do I tell my son’s dad?

[mummypeach2224]

So I’ve married my partner, my daughter’s dad. But am I under any obligation to tell my son’s dad that I’ve married? Or do I just let him find out from his mum (I have her on social media and she’s been round and already knows)

Are you in regular communication with him?
If you are it would be weird not to tell him.If there is barely any contact then no need.

dont think you’re under any obligation but would be common courtesy. Presumably you want to try and get on and have a mature communicative relationship for the sake of your son.

No not really, once in a blue moon. He very rarely sees his son either. 9 times this year.

I wouldn’t even say we have that. We’re civil, I send him updates about his son and get no response. Last text I sent was regarding getting him observed for possibly being on the spectrum and I got no response👍🏼 my son thinks he’s his “big grandad” my husband is his dad

I think it depends on the age of your DS. There is a danger that he may end up feeling like a go-between on messaging between his two parents. If there is no history of abuse or red flags from your Ex then a courtesy email may reduce any “burden” your DS could feel at being stuck in the middle. When my DPs divorced I was never sure what they knew about each others new lives (both remarried) and always felt a bit awkward mentioning things in case I said the wrong thing so felt like walking on eggshells really.

My son is 3, who’s dad I’m not with. My daughter is 1 who’s dad I’m married too.