My DD turned 5 recently, she’s a late summer baby.
She toilet trained easily at 2 and a few months, dry in the day from day 1 without me needing to do much really, had a bit of a wobble about pooing in the potty which lasted a couple of weeks but we resolved it.
She remained in pull ups at night and we never had a single time she woke up dry. All the advice said it’s hormonal and to leave it so we did.
A few months back she really didn’t want to wear her pull ups (she calls them night time knicks!) and so we tried without - with protective mats for the bed and lots of spares on hand. It was a disaster, I’d been happy to try on the off chance it was just one overnight wee that we could figure out when it was and address that. But she weed repeatedly through the night, all different times and even if I woke her up periodically to go on the loo (which she did). About 5 days in she was so tired I said shall we just put the night time knicks back on and she said yes and we left it there.
Around 3 weeks back she was starting Year One and announced very definitely she would not be wearing night time knicks anymore as she’s a big girl now. She was really desperate to try and it was clear it was affecting her sense of self so I agreed to try again. First few nights more of the same, but then we seemed to have a breakthrough - I’d wake her for the loo around 11pm, and she’d be dry after that till she got up at 6ish. Felt like we made progress, and that happened for a few days straight but since then it’s just random whether she’s going to be dry, mostly dry or have multiple accidents at night.
She’s desperate not to go back in pull ups and gets really upset if it’s suggested. She’s generally pretty switched on, very concerned with being independent and a big girl so this really bothers her.
But clearly she’s not had that hormonal shift or whatever it is yet.
Would you just persevere since we have made some progress, even if it’s a bit one step forward two steps back?
Or insist she goes back in the pull ups even if it upsets her/ knocks her confidence a bit?