2 under 2…

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The “good and bad” regarding having two kinds under the age of two? Please help prepare me🥴🥰

Ive not had 2 under 2 but I think we adapt to our circumstances, of course it will be challenging at times and you'll probably be knackered for years but that would be the case for having 1 child or 10 and of any age.
Take each day as it comes and dont put pressure on yourself, accept any help offered.

I had 2 under one at one point lol. They are now 18m and 7 1/2m. I’m not going to lie I am really struggling at the moment but neither of them sleep so that is a major factor at the moment. The way they are with each other is lovely though and I can see they will be very close. I’ve been told it gets easier and I will absolutely love it eventually. Good luck x

Yes I genuinely don’t remember much of 2010 because I had two under 2 for most of it. The first year was really hard. But by the end of that first year, they were starting to play together and it became progressively easier. Mine are both boys and liked the same films, sports etc which also helped. They’re 17 and nearly 16 now and while not best buddies, get on well and have mostly been good company for one another. I am glad I did it that way (but I’ll say it again, the first year is very hard!)

I had three under two for a while. I was so sleep deprived I don’t remember much of it. But it was only (!) for two or three years. It was great from when youngest were about 3. Love it now (mid/late teens).

I had children at the time that pretty much everyone I knew had 18 month gaps so its interesting that now this is something that's unusual. Same for me and my siblings and all my own childhood friends

I can't say what was bad or good as I have nothing to compare it to. All I can say is that we all just got on with it, it wasn't even a thing if that makes sense, it was just life with young children. I'm sure the world hasn't changed very much in a relatively short time has it?

Thanks everyone!!
From my calculations, my daughter will be about 17m old when this baby is born. I will also have a 12 year old, eek!!
I don’t know anyone personally with, or who has had 2 under 2, so that’s really why I’m asking, as
I have also heard it is hard at first but rewarding and really nice as they can grow up together and play etc. I still have a few months to prepare, hehehe,
thank you!

My two are 22m apart. My eldest was a TERRIBLE sleeper until about 4 (still doesn’t sleep through now) so the first 2 yrs of 2u2 was difficult from a sleep perspective as they both woke a lot and often in succession. But honestly I wouldn’t change it, I have LOVED the chaos. I know this may have nothing to do with them being 2u2 but they are 2 peas in a pod, they are the best of friends (now 3 and 5), love to play together, basically wouldn’t be without each other. It has been v full on but this summer i really notified a difference with how much more independent and able they were and for how much less hovering/following/being involved I needed to be with their play. It honestly makes me want to cry when I see how much they love each other and so whilst again this may just be a personality thing and nothing to do with ages, I wouldn’t change the age gap because of this.
I am due #3 and there will be a 3.5yr gap between middle and this one and I’m scared she will be left out because she’s so much younger, even though in reality it’s not a HUGE gap!