Hi guys,
I have a 5 year old DD she just started primary school.
She's a wonderful kid funny, kind, smart, brave, friendly but when she is corrected on something no matter how gently she reacts defensively and becomes quite rude. Then she gets in trouble for being rude so the whole thing escalates unnecessarily.
For example earlier when eating her snack her dad asked her to be careful with her chocolate rice cakes as some bits of chocolate were falling on the ground and our puppy could eat them. She immediately got angry and mimicked her dad saying "blaa blaa blaa" making faces and just generally being cheeky and rude even after she was told to stop. One of our rules is that we all speak respectfully to each other so as a result of being rude she has "lost a privilege" which in this case was watching a cartoon.
Problem is the loss of privilege doesn't seem to work as this has happened multiple times recently.
She tends react this way more with my DH than me but i have been on the reciving end also.
I'm not sure if she can fully control her bad reaction so I'm wondering are we doing the wrong thing punishing her. She gets really upset afterwards and says how "bad" she is (no-one ever calls her bad by the way!)
My husband can be abrupt sometimes but in this case he was gently asking her to be a bit more carefull with the falling chocolate.
Anyone ever have anything similar with their kids?