Only child or 2 under 2?

[Rach325]

Calling all families who had 2 under 2 or very close to that... We had our miracle ivf baby in February after a few years trying and a year of ivf, he was our third and last embryo.

6 months in and loving being a mama so so much. I'll be 40 next year so if we want to have a second, we'd need to act quick and go through the whole egg collection ivf process again, rather than hold off.

Just curious as to how people have found having 2 close together and did your bond with your first change? What was that transition like? My heart breaks at the thought of missing out on things with my first born, or him feeling jealous, or just pushed aside a bit. Makes me feel sad just thinking about it, but am I being dramatic?

Equally anyone in a vaguely similar position that decided to stick with one, would love you to share your story and choices etc

I had 2 under 2. It was hard work but not impossible. It doesn't last for ever. They are adults now and the best of friends. Go for it.

Would doing the egg collection then waiting a while to transfer work as a compromise? Also once you're in another egg collection if that's what you decide then your feelings about not having an immediate transfer might answer the question for you, so if you find yourself wishing for a fresh transfer that's your answer to go for it rather than freeze all 😁

Definitely being over dramatic. I had two under two and then went for three under four. It’s a brief period of hard work but the payoff in having two kids close in age is great. I recommend having a helpful and hands-on partner! If you would have liked two on verbal I honestly think it would be utter utter madness to not go ahead because you are worried about the age gap. Of course, things may not work out, but it’s definitely worth a go!