Parenting without DH is 10x easier

[Cinai]

Granted my relationship is on the rocks since our baby was born 1 year ago, but does anyone else find parenting without their partner around so much easier? When he’s here, there’s just endless discussions about every single decision…whether baby’s teething tonight warrants calpol or not, whether we should give him his snack a bit earlier (because he didn’t eat much lunch), whether he should wear a jacket or if the jumper is enough before going out.
my husband recently was away for a week and it was pure bliss to be on my own with the boy. The little bit of extra work when doing things all by myself is nothing compared to the time and nerves I spend in 1000 discussions per day.

I think that at times too but it’s a given, if you get to make a decision on your own then you can just do it but being a pair you have to run it by then and discuss the best option. I actually miss when we used to figure stuff out together, we really were two heads are better than one, and had each other’s backs/ complimented each other (breaking up now and it’s harder as it’s road block or silence from each of us at different times)

Agree 💯 OP parenting the parent is exhausting

I agree. And DH is great. No complaints. But it’s quieter and calmer when he’s not here and DS and I can just get on with things.

What sub2 said

Now I just decide everything

It's always easier when you can just make decisions without having to go to committee first.

But it takes two to have these long conversations so you can avoid that by not engaging. Let him make the decision about the jumper or the Calpol or whatever. You don't HAVE to get involved. It's within your control to reduce the amount of this back and forth.

I think you need to know who's in charge at any given moment, then the other keeps quiet. So it's like "I do dinner and you do bedtime" and then you don't tread on each others toes. Then swap the next day, and ask each other for tips if you like.