Cafcass and court against my mum/kids grandma

[August21yellowbaby]

In April this year my relationship with my mum came to a end when she messed with my kids one too many times
to try and make it short, I dropped my baby off with her for the day as I had to go to a funeral, he’s on special milk (dairy allergy) and when I picked him up none of the milk had been used. When I asked what he had, she said he had 2 bottles, both 10oz. Blatantly lying, I begged her to tell me what he’s actually had and she pushed me out her house
my baby screamed in agony all night, followed by 4 days of diarrhoea with blood in it
this was the final straw for me
anyway fast forward to now, I’ve had a letter from family courts and also cafcass and I’m just an anxious mess from it all
has anyone been through this process?

Huh? Did you miss the line where you reported her to someone?

Has she reported you? For the right to see the kids or something else?

Yes I reported her twice to the police

She hasn’t reported me but she did contact a mediator which I declined to take part with

A letter about what ??

In the UK, grandparents don’t generally have contact rights. So she should have no claim to access unless she was a significant caregiver. She isn’t the child’s parent, so just ignore. I have no contact with my mum and nor do my children for safeguarding reasons. I just ignore all her emails. 🤷🏻‍♀️

But what is the police involvement? I assume you didn’t call the police because she gave the baby the wrong milk? Best approach is no contact whatsoever. Then nothing can be turned around and claimed as harassment. Just pretend she no longer exists. Move if you have to. We moved and it took mine 3 years to track me down. It was so peaceful!

I don’t follow either?

surely if you don’t want her to see your kids you just don’t? No need for carcass and court.

unless she has PR for some reason?

what have the police got to do with it? You say you reported her, what for? Again though there’d be no need for family courts…