Struggling mentally with family life

[belleoz]

Hi, I’m not really sure why I’m posting but hoping to hear similar experiences I think, so I don’t feel so alone! I am married with two small children (boys aged 3 and 1). I’m also 29 weeks pregnant which was very unexpected as my boys took a lot of time and trying to conceive and this one just happened. I’m struggling to come to terms with the new baby even now. I’m so hormonal and angry or sad a lot
of the time - I’m losing my temper with my three year old who can be testing on occasion but generally is a very good little boy. This evening I saw red over something and slammed a door. I feel really awful about it. I’m also feeling very resentful towards my husband who I feel doesn’t value or appreciate anything I do. Because he works and is the breadwinner, he thinks it’s fine to leave me
with everything else. Im just really struggling to cope and hoping someone else has experienced this and that there is light at the end of the tunnel. All I can see is more sleepless nights, losing patience with my boys and feeling disconnected from my husband.

I had 3 under 3 then another 10 years later.i was a SAHM
I think it's easy to forget your DH has work to deal with and it's on his mind a lot ,when at home ..but saying that DH should be helping when he's home ..mire than helping actually doing half when he's at home ..
I had to direct my DH a lot ..can you take dc1 to park ,toilet ..can you put wash on ,can you walk dogs ..
Can you do bedtime while I wash up.
I did that a lot when mine were small..I don't think it crossed his mind all the jobs that need doing with a home and young family ..so see yourself op ,as the CEO of your company ( family ) and issue directions to your employees... Dc's can definitely be taught to put back what they get out from an early age .she can be guided to do their fair share when of work.
Having 3 under 3 ,meant they played together,instead of pestering me to play with them .a day out ..they had each other at the park ,had each other for support in school.things like after-school activities of hockey and karate were easier because they all went together and had each other there for support.plus going from one to two children,was much harder than going from two to three children...you know what your doing and you don't need to buy everything baby needs again as you already have it .

I can understand you getting resentful. I do ageee with directing him. It’s not fair and he should just step up but it doesn’t sound as though he’s going to.

I too used to say things like “do you want to bath the kids or do the washing up and tidy the living room”? If I didn’t he would sit down whilst I did the lot. Offer him a choice though and he’s choose one and do it.

I found The Organised Mum Method helped me too. Especially if I was struggling because I could give DH the list and ask him to do the jobs.

Is he taking any time off when you have number 3?