10 month old sleep

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Just an exhausted mum of two.

10 month old spending most the night practicing her standing.

exhausted. Frustrated. Argh! Just wanted a space to vent lol.

I thought maybe she’s awake every few hours because maybe she’s hungry but nope no milk is settling her back.

she goes to sleep around 6pm (is this too early?) I try my hardest to hold her out but she just wants to go sleep.

losing the will. I can’t remember if this happened with my son as my memory is clouded right now as I’m sleep deprived.

not sure what I want out of this but maybe someone to say “this soon shall pass” 🤣

Can you post her full routine?

Is she shouting when she’s standing and us she in her own room?

Sometimes she shouts, cries and sometimes she is quiet but I’m worried she’ll lose balance and smack her chin on the cot as she’s in a sleep sack doing it lol. She’s in her own room.

routine currently -

wake up 4-5am (sometimes she managed to settle her back to atleast 6am but last few days she’s like nope wide awake from 4-5)

then next nap - 7-8ish until 9-9:30

play, lunch, milk

then 2nd nap - 12-2

play, dinner, bath, milk

in bed by 6:30

xx

Her first nap is reinforcing the night waking and the early start because it’s too long and too early. She is essentially catching up on the night sleep she lost.

can you try and push the first nap back so it’s 8.45 at the earliest and 45 mins long?

then lunch nap as normal or extend until 2.30 and do a 7pm bedtime.

She is standing because she’s learned or learning a new skill and getting ready to walk. leave her to it and stick to a good routine and good sleep hygiene and it will pass.

Totally agree about thay first nap.

If she's standing but quiet (or noisy but not distressed) then let her be. Are you in the same room?

Thanks !! Funnily enough I’ve been so busy this morning with getting my son to school her nap time is only just now. She was screaming as she was tired but my son was trying to entertain her for me whilst I ran around sorting bits out. So I will try this nap now.

I do try my hardest to leave her be when she’s standing in her cot and not crying out, but she starts to slip and her chins about to smash against the cot so she starts doing a panicked whinge. I get up, go in her room and help her 🤦🏻‍♀️ and then we’re doomed lol

I’ll try my best efforts to get her bedtime to 7pm today and see. When’s she’s tired she does not give up poor thing. I’ll try distract her with more play and a later bath time /bed time routine!

Wish me luck 🙏 🥱

She probably will bang her chin, and then she will learn not to do it again. I wouldn’t go in for whinging at all.

…and good luck!!

🤣🤣 @LapinR0severy true! Okay I’ll try stop myself going in (if it happens tonight) and see what happens 😬

If she is very tired also a 6.45 bedtime.

If you want to move the bedtime I’d try moving it by 15 minutes first. When she’s done Thats for a few days, move it by another 15 and keep doing it in stages until you get the time you want.

It’s a good time to move it now as once the hour changes she’ll be ready for bedtime at 5pm and that really is too early

@BunnyRuddington thanks for the advice ! I’ll start doing that and oh my goodness I didn’t even think about clocks changing my gosh 5pm would be too early 🤣🤣 I don’t need that! No thank you.

okay great let’s see how it goes 😬🙏

First nap she is treating as addition to overnight
my 10 month old routine is
wake 6am ish
Breast feed
breakfast 7.15
nap 9/9.30 for 15 mins ( I wake him )
lunch 12
second nap 12.30-2.30 I wake him
bedtime 7/7.15

Put her in a slumbersac with feet instead of a sleeping bag the. You don’t need to worry about her losing her footing and falling as much
to add to above I have white noise all night and pitch black room and I mean pitch black

Mine only slept 10 hours overnight at that age, so 6pm bedtime would guarantee a 4am wake up which i would personally find less than ideal.
like you I could probably persuade a bit later but it would be a lot of work.
If I put her to bed that early she’d view it as a nap and be disturbed the rest of the night. Too tired to be up but too rested to be asleep. maybe it’s a similar issue?

@mrssunshinexxx what a great idea! I knew these existed but it didn’t even cross my mind! Ordering them now !

@Rorysmaybe! I think these next few days I need to trial different routines and see which one works! So far today, her first nap was later in the morning and only short. She’s now napping her second nap later than usual… in fact I’m going to be waking her up shortly. And then challenge “see how far I can hold her out this evening”.

At 10 months the average babies sleep needs are 12-15 hours in 24 hours with 10-11 of those at night.

As a PP said 6pm bedtime is very likely to mean awake for the day at 4am.

4 hours of naps is probably too much unless you have a high sleep need baby. It sounds like baby doesn't have enough sleep pressure to stay asleep at night so I think I'd reduce daytime sleep down under 2 hours.

Good luck!

We tried an early short am nap for our little and it didn't work, but I'd def say you'd benefit from shifting your entire schedule back and hour or two, you can do it in 15in increments to make it easier on everyone

Thanks everyone for your advice!

so today’s gone like this-

4-5am wake up.
milk- 6am
breakfast 7:45
playing

8:45-9:30 first nap

popping out with me/play/lunch

1:30-2:45 second nap

milk/play/dinner/play/bathtime/milk

7:10pm bedtime

does this seem better? Or anything you’d change?

thanks. See what happens tonight!

Sounds better. 45 minutes for the first nap is a full sleep cycle so that’s a good amount.

That went really well!! Great day of naps. Fingers crossed for you.

How was last night?

Morning!

so!

she woke up at 12:50am and wanted to stand so I just let her be. But then she sat down and starting crying, so went in and fed her which settled her and she went back to sleep.

then she woke up at 5:30am (so much better than 4am yay) but I left her to do her standing and she kept standing then lying back down and again and again. But at 6am she slipped and hit her chin so she let out a huge cry. I picked her up cuddled her and brought her into my bed and she fell back to sleep until 7am to start the day.

she’s now fallen asleep for her first nap, so that’s shifted to later into the morning.

I’d say that’s successful for the first try!

I’d say it was successful too