Potty training - doing well at nursery, resisting at home

[ToddlerTornado]

We started potty training last Friday (DS 2.5 years) . From Fri–Sun it was a mix of accidents and successes.

Yesterday & this morning DS refused the potty at home (he’d already done a wee in his night nappy). Then he went off to nursery where he had no accidents all day. As soon as he got home though, he weed in his trousers – even though I’d asked 5 mins before if he needed the potty. The same happened today on returning from nursery.

I know it’s still very early days, but I’m wondering if there’s anything I can do to help with the resistance at home? He seems much more compliant at nursery.

I’m trying not to stress but can’t help worrying a bit!

Anyone?

You and your DC are doing really well; don’t worry about it. Mine is older and still having issue at home but nursery has no issues!! Depends on your DC but could you make it the routine to walk in the door and sit on the potty- no questions about it, just that it’s time to try now?

@DillyDallyingAllDay thanks , its so much harder than I thought. Im having to bribe him at home to use the potty. Whereas at nursery he does it all willingly!!

Has anyone overcome this?

It’s a process for sure! We began potty training when DD was 2 years, 3 months. She’s now 3 years, 2 months, aaand she still has leaks and accidents, times when she’s great and times when she resists. 🤷🏾‍♀️ So many factors can rattle them.

Just keep going. Try to stay calm and consistent with whatever approach you’ve chosen. Routine is helpful. Pick times when it’s helpful to pee (before going out, before nap and bed, etc) and tell him to do it. If he won’t, don’t fight him, but keep up with the routine. Has he chosen his own potty? That can help. He may also eventually prefer using the big toilet like mummy! He will get better and it’s really early days for you!

My big tip is not to over-prompt or apply too much pressure, or to over-praise. It’s something he’s got to get the hang of eventually so treat it like a part of life that doesn’t need either too much fanfare or too much stress. If he pisses where he shouldn’t, remind him to get it in the potty next time and make him stop what he’s doing to help you clean up/put clothes in the washing machine. It should be a mild inconvenience to him not a punishment, if that makes sense.

Mostly though you have to regulate your own emotions around it really well. Be like a robot, seriously! I found it so hard for a long time. The mess, the conflict and illogic of it all really triggered me! But then I just gave up caring so much (exhaustion probably) and chilled out. It certainly didn’t harm the process!

Good luck!

Thank you @Unsure4589I just hope he grasps it all soon. I cant understand why he's perfect and accident free at nursery and refusing at home!!