friends child kicks and pushes

[bigboydiditandranaway]

Have had enough of friends dd(2yrs)kicking and pushing my ds(not hard) her mum does tell her off but in a very gentle way and she basically isn't stopping. It isn't just to my ds it's to others aswell and i know they go through phases, but i don't think friends mum is being firm enough with her and i don't want this to happen to ds or for him to start doing it aswell.

Friend has mentioned that she doesn't feel that she's very good at telling her dd off so i obviously don't want to shout at her dd although i do feel like giving her a good telling off myself.

i'm wondering whether to just meet her at playgroups, as it doesn't seem to happen there an awful lot and avoid seeing each other at our houses. Or would you say something to friend?

Please help.

Hiya, I just wondered if she was your friend's only child? I ask as you mention that your friend has commented "oh don't think I'm doing it properly" and whether that's her way of asking for help/advice as she's new to it all? Or at least to a situation like this?

I feel for you though as a good friend of mine had a little boy like that and it got to the point where ds point blank refused to see him "no, he hits all the time!"

yes, it's her only child and mine.

When she said that she wasn't very good at telling her dd off she seemed to be feeling a bit under pressure as she was due to visit her family that are good at telling children off, but when she came back from visiting them she seemed to be better but it's all gone back to normal now.

How did your friend handle the situation?

I sympathise with your friend TBH. She has ended up with the wilful child and it sounds like she's pretty underconfident.

My dd (20m) has just started hitting other children in fights over toys. Othere Mums look at me in horror when she does it, makes me feel like s*t. So no, don't stop going round to her house, offer her some help with discipline time outs etc. If you stop seeing her she's going to feel like s*t too.

Hi, I talked to my ds about how to deal with it and that hitting/whatever back wasn't what I hoped to see. I then spoke to my friend and told her what I'd said to ds...which opened the chat and we then able to discuss how we could deal with it together.
I think it's a phase that needs to be worked through. It's horrible for everyone involved but it does change. As long as she reinforces the idea that it's not acceptable to her dd then it will change. Good luck x