i feel raw and can't stop crying i am a truly horrible mom

[notreal]

my ds is 2.8 and we had to go shopping this am and he was a complete nightmare crying when he could'nt get his own way etc etc etc and then i had to contend with my dh going on at me about 'controlling' him and i just lost it for the first time ever i felt like i hated my son and i don't like it i keep crying because he is such a good boy really and it was'nt his fault he was tired and we had to shop and it was my stupid fault we didn't take the buggy and yet i felt like i hated him because i could'nt get my jobs done because of him. what kind of mother am i??????

A normal one!

Honey don't beat yourself for a short moment feeling. Anyone can see that you love him. They take up a lot of energy. Is there anyone around who can give you some respite? What about your DH taking him out so that you can have some time to yourself?

A very normal one. IMO we all have our breaking point.
Take five minutes a deep breath and remember you DO love your DC you are a fantastic mum. It sounds like today was a one off, amazing considering your sons age.
Tomorrow is another day

honestly, same kind of mother as millions of others who find it hard work
dont be tough on yourself, it IS hard, it IS a struggle it IS the same for us all.

Go and pick him up and cuddle him and tell him you love him.....go on,

it willbe alright i promise
x

notreal - I think every mum goes through minutes, hours (maybe even days) when they feel that they hate their children.

Don't worry about it - the more you worry the more it'll upset DS. He's going to see you crying and think it's his fault (it's what kids do)

Also at your DH for not helping when surely he could see you getting upset. They're his kids too are they not?

Completely and totally normal.

Everyone has bad days - it's how you get on afterwards that counts more, in my opinion. Put this behind you and don't let it spoil the rest of your weekend.

Oh, and give your DH a talking to about supporting you when you're struggling.

note to self...take buggy., EVEN WHEN HE IS 16 YEARS OLD..TAKE THE BLOODY BUGGY

[GRIN]

You're a perfectly good mother who had a horrible day! I had a really similar experience, also without a buggy, when I threatened to leave DS behind because he wanted to be carried and I had loads of bags.

I felt awful about it for ages, he cried and cried and cried. But as long as you sit down and tell them why you were so angry and explain that you still love them, they forget about it really quickly.

And your feelings are completely natural, you needed to get things done and he was stopping you, it's completely normal frustration. Have a lovely cuddle with him and do something nice together like watch a DVD, and you'll both feel better, I reckon.

hope this helps

x

Hi
Totally agree with marslady
If you could get some time away from him - even if it's only an hour while you get out e.g. hairdresser or something, might make you feel more human again not just wife and mother.
Don't worry about it, bet you won't find anybody who has never felt like that at one time or another!!

have a cuddle, get some chocolate...DO NOT give any to you hubby, tillhe applogises

feeling any better sweetie?
are we helping you?

ahh you are all making me cry !!!! thank you all of you .... no i don't get much respite dh did say afterwards that he would try and take him out for an hour or so sometimes to help me something he not done before after i shouted at him that he was right i was NOT coping so we will see i just love my little man soooo much and it has shocked me to the core to feel like this but thankyou again for making it seem normal.

any time, we are always here if you need us, jsut post away.