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Daughter not sleeping through.

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CJ98 · 06/09/2025 06:33

I’m just looking for some advice from a pair of very sleep deprived parents.
Our daughter is 13 months and over the last month or so she’s been waking up anywhere between 12am & 5am. Over the last week she’s woken at 3am every night and we’ve had to fight with getting her back to sleep. Both myself and my partner work and sometimes can be having to get up at 5am to be ready for work & even though we are both going to bed around 10pm when she’s having us up we are going to work on very little sleep which is then affecting work let alone affecting our relationship. We’ve tried everything from making her evening meal later, giving her a bottle just before she goes to bed, she gets a clean nappy on every night before she goes to bed, she’ll have a bath around 6:30 & she’s in bed anywhere between 6:30 -7:30. She’s perfectly fine going to sleep but staying asleep seems to be the issue. Her room is as dark as we can possibly make it, she had a sleep/sound machine in her room.
does anyone have any tips on how I can help her stay asleep all night ?

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cheesycheesy · 06/09/2025 06:38

Have you tried pushing her bedtime beck an hour or so? That’s fairly early. Or maybe she’s napping too long.

Geranium1984 · 06/09/2025 06:38

Hi, this sounds very tough especially with having to get up for work.
What is her full routine like? Presumably she's on 2 naps during the day? How long is she napping for?
I've got two kids and their sleep was completely different. One napped and slept overnight 11-12 hours. But my dd2 has only ever slept 10hrs at night and needed shorter naps with bigger wake windows during the day.
Does she fall asleep by herself?
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BunnyRuddington · 06/09/2025 07:53

Does she go back to sleep if you pop her into your bed?

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HelloGreen · 06/09/2025 07:58

Do you mean she wakes up once at 3am or she’s waking up multiple times? Because if it’s just one wake up I’d say that’s not bad! Mine wakes up in the night as well with phases of it being better or worse, and like you we can’t see any reason for it.

OtterMummy2024 · 06/09/2025 09:46

Around 12 months, my baby suddenly needed a later bedtime. More like up 7am, 2h nap, bed 8pm. Often the nap is only 90 minutes.

Bitzee · 06/09/2025 09:48

At that age it’s likely needing to drop a nap or being cold especially as the temperature has dropped this week.

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CJ98 · 06/09/2025 17:36

HelloGreen · 06/09/2025 07:58

Do you mean she wakes up once at 3am or she’s waking up multiple times? Because if it’s just one wake up I’d say that’s not bad! Mine wakes up in the night as well with phases of it being better or worse, and like you we can’t see any reason for it.

Yeah she wakes up the once but we are then struggling with getting her back to sleep.

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Geranium1984 · 06/09/2025 17:40

Sounds like she's had enough sleep by then.
I think my Dd2 had around 6hrs awake time before bed at that age with a short morning nap, 1hr early afternoon nap.

TomatoSandwiches · 06/09/2025 17:47

Push her bed time to 8pm and go to bed at the same time for a while whilst she recalibrates.

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CJ98 · 15/10/2025 06:26

CJ98 · 06/09/2025 06:33

I’m just looking for some advice from a pair of very sleep deprived parents.
Our daughter is 13 months and over the last month or so she’s been waking up anywhere between 12am & 5am. Over the last week she’s woken at 3am every night and we’ve had to fight with getting her back to sleep. Both myself and my partner work and sometimes can be having to get up at 5am to be ready for work & even though we are both going to bed around 10pm when she’s having us up we are going to work on very little sleep which is then affecting work let alone affecting our relationship. We’ve tried everything from making her evening meal later, giving her a bottle just before she goes to bed, she gets a clean nappy on every night before she goes to bed, she’ll have a bath around 6:30 & she’s in bed anywhere between 6:30 -7:30. She’s perfectly fine going to sleep but staying asleep seems to be the issue. Her room is as dark as we can possibly make it, she had a sleep/sound machine in her room.
does anyone have any tips on how I can help her stay asleep all night ?

Just thought I’d update you all.
We pushed her bedtime to anywhere between 8&9 and it’s made everything worse. We continued with giving her evening meal to as late as possible, we’ve pushed bath time to 7:45 & then she has a bottle around 8. She has a full hour to wind down and then we put her to bed. She kicks off for the first 10-15 minutes and then she’s asleep. Only now she’s decided she’s going to start waking up around 11 and we are still fighting with her at 5am.
This entire situation is affecting everything, I’ve started being late for work because I’m sleeping through my alarms because I’ve only climbed into bed an hour before my alarm goes off. It’s affecting my relationship as I’ve found im dealing with her more than my partner which then gets too me so we are arguing more. I know the lack of sleep isn’t helping but does anyone have any tips or ways to help.
I am so exhausted that I haven’t slept properly & I can’t allow it to keep affecting my life.
what am I doing wrong ? What can I change ? How can I get my child to atleast sleep for more than a couple of hours before being awake the entire night 🤦🏼‍♀️😭

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cheesycheesy · 15/10/2025 06:59

You should be doing things equally if you’re both working, I don’t understand why you’re doing more than your partner.

mixedcereal · 15/10/2025 07:11

Is this only started happening in the last month you say? Was she sleeping
through previously?

can you co sleep to get through this phase? Or move her to a floor bed and then you go into her bed with her?

I think it’s a difference situation but I had to do a little bit of sleep training with my 11 month old as she’d wake up once in the night and not go back to sleep. I don’t know if that would help but if she was sleeping through before maybe it’s something different

Geranium1984 · 16/10/2025 10:24

What is her routine during the day? Ie. Time she wakes up in the morning and naps?
Does she fall asleep independently or are you in the room?

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