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AIBU?

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Lillytobyruby23 · 05/09/2025 14:43

So my friend has recent split with her partner, she's been very promiscuous with her children in the house/ children meeting random men etc and my boyfriend who's her husbands best friend overheard her and told him everything one evening.
In the duration of their conversation it was mentioned by the ex that she had hurt her son by hitting him in the face with a toy he's 5.
He had witnessed this and didn't say anything as he was worried she would stop him seeing his son.
I found out from my boyfriend and it brought a few things to mind about the situation.
Her son had asked me before on a play date if I smack my sons when they're naughty. I never thought anything of it but now it's in my head on replay.
He has also made other accusations and his behaviour is quite difficult.
Social services has also already been involved but case closed.
I have been debating in my head as to whether this is enough to report and I went ahead and reported the concerns to the social services.
The sad thing is everyone around that little boy are aware of things being volatile, there is a lot of hear say and no one has reported it so I felt I should.
Am I getting too involved?? One of my other friends told me not to get involved as it's causing unnecessary drama but what if there is something going on and that little boy gets hurt and I knew something wasn't right and didn't say anything? In my opinion I've done the right thing but it would also be nice to hear others opinions x

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Katherina198819 · 05/09/2025 15:41

This is difficult. I saw my sister smack my nephew once, and I was so surprised. I talked to her about why she shouldn’t do it, but she does it very rearly. I’m extremely against it, but I also know my nephew, and apart from this, he’s a happy little boy. I don’t believe he would ask something like this if it only happened rarely.If I knew it was happening often, or if I saw other signs, I would report her—even though she’s my sister.

The fact that the little boy felt the need to “investigate” is a bad sign to me. And if social services have already been involved once, that’s another red flag. I think I would report it.

MonsterBoo · 08/09/2025 17:35

Yanbu this needs reporting

mummyto9angels · 08/09/2025 17:45

I would definitely report. Safeguarding vulnerable adults and children is everyone's responsibility and you would never forgive yourself if the worst happened.

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