So ds will be 3 in a few months. We potty trained back in May/June time and since then he's been doing really well. He has been fab at home and never has any accidents when he's with me or family (although still not dry at night) but it took him a really long time to be OK with doing poos at nursery and he'd do his best to hold it until he got home sometimes having accidents or getting constipated as a result. He's now, thankfully past that and is pooing when he needs to at nursery, however I always know when he's gone because he comes home with pants covered in poo. He's capable of going to the toilet to pee alone and will use his potty independently at home too but still needs help cleaning his bum properly. From the way his pants are coming home he's clearly going to the toilet and then pulling his pants straight up without wiping. It's to the point where around his anus is getting quite red and I've had to start using nappy cream on him again. I've spoken to the nursery to ask them to ask him if he's done a poo before he pulls his pants up and I've asked him to tell a grown up when he's pooed so they can clean his bum properly before his pants get dirty but he's still refusing and to be honest I'm not sure they're asking. It comes home completely dried in and I can smell it off him immediately so I know he's been in it a while. If it happens again I'm going to have another chat with the nursery about it but anything else anyone would recommend? We will be working on learning how to wipe himself properly but he's still too little to really be able to reach properly. He still seems to have a bit of embarrassment about it with nursery staff.