Is my son ready to potty train - very mixed signals

[eenybeeny]

My DS is 22 months old. He stops when he is doing a wee or a poo and sometimes asks for the potty. He tugs at his winky when he needs to go. He shows an interest in going on our toilet but often gets frustrated and throws his (empty) potty across the room. He is very good at speaking so its fairly easy to communicate with him.

My worry is that he is still too young. When he is nappy free and he wees on the floor he gets terribly upset and cries inconsolably even though we have NEVER in any way said or done anything to make him feel naughty for wee or poo we are a very laid back household and do not pressure him.

He is a very big boy and is already in size 6 nappies so we do worry that he will grow out of nappies available before he is potty trained.

What should I do? I have the My Potty Book for Boys book which he likes reading... I am really unsure. Sometimes when we (DH and I) are encouraging him to go on the potty and he cries I just think NO this isnt right he isnt ready. And sometimes when he is without a nappy I will ask him if he would like a nappy on and he will say yes. But then other times he will ASK for the potty and ask to be naked.

I just dont know. Any input would be great!

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Signals for potty training have to be Loud and Clear or you end up with poo everywhere!

Just carry on with what you're doing. Give himm the pot if he asks for it, sing Hallelujah if he does is, ignore and nappy if he doesn''t.

what signals is he missing? I have read up about it but I cant seem to really put my finger on it iykwim. He seems to show lots of signs sometimes then none. I just know a lot of my friends little boys werent able to train til they were around 3 and I have heard boys are sometimes slower than girls in this respect.

Good advice from Colditz.
He'll get there but it sounds as if he's not quite ready to go into pants. Much easier for you all if you wait until he is really ready.

so does wait mean keep him nappied up or does it mean keep him nappy free as much as possible and listen for signals

Keep him nappied I would say - it seems to worry him if he pees on the floor so keep him in nappies unless he asks to be without one.

The key thing is that the whole process should be as stress-free as possible. Which is why my 2.10 year old ds is still in nappies and I have no immediate plans to change this! He is not showing any of the signs your ds is and to try him at potty training would put him (and me) under too much stress.

I'd probably keep him in nappies for now, but if the weather is good and you are out in the garden you could have him nappy free, its a good way for them to to work out what is going on. He is pretty young though so do try not to worry.

But in theory babies should have nappy free time every day anyway whether or not you are potty training, right? We have always given him nappy free time and now its sort of seamlessly melded into potty training - even though like you said I dont think he is ready.

DH said just now when he and I were talking about this thread and what to do from here on out: "pretend I am a robot what commands would you put into me? what am I supposed to do?"