It's a wedding ebf baby one! Help!

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Having a panic about wedding we are going to this weekend. DD is 4 and a half months and ebf. She has taken a bottle but I've not really left her for more than 3 hours.

Original plan was to take my parents to the Air bnb and they look after her whilst we go to the wedding. However I am panicking as they will also have DS 4 and if she won't settle it would take me about 25/30 mins to get back to the house (in it's a remote venue).

I'm so torn as it's a very close friend and whilst DD could come I really want to enjoy the wedding and stay into the evening etc. Plus I have paid a load of money for an extra big house for us all so my parents could come.

I thought maybe I can pop back and feed her but I'm worried it might take too long. Also worried about being engorged! Other option is they bring her to the carpark of the venue but my Mum is not a confident driver and I think my Dad would stress out on his own with her.

Just bring your baby she needs you.
can you bring baby and your mum to help with the baby too? (But make it clear you’re not expecting your friend to feed mum)

Baby can fall asleep in a pram there. I wouldn’t have dreamt of leaving baby at that age and I was combi fed.

I’d just take her with you, parents can still come watch the 4 year old and there’s no reason at all a 4 month old baby can’t stay into the evening and sleep in the pram, they are very portable at that age!

At 4 and a half months and ebf is bring the baby with you. She’s too young really to be left without milk on demand if she’s not used to bottles.

My Mum can't come up to the venue as my Dad won't be able to cope with DS alone. However DH will be there so maybe its best he's just on baby duty!

How likely is it do you think that she won't settle? Is she generally unsettled when you've left her before or is it more nerves talking because you are considering leaving her for longer than you have already?

If the latter then I'd leave her and just get back as soon as you can if you are called but if she's usually fine then you will likely not be called anyway. If you think it is very likely that you'll be called then I'd just take her with you.

I’d take baby with you. Will she sleep in a sling on you while you chat to friends and enjoy the evening? She might.

She's very relaxed but she is fussy in the evenings and I do feed her a lot then. I think I will just take her.

There is no way I could have had any fun with my 4 month old at a wedding. For one, every wedding I've ever attended has been very loud especially as the evening goes on. I would rather get a few quality hours with my friends and pop back early than spend all evening looking out for my fussy 4 month old.

But mine was also always fussy in the evening.

Why not pop out for bedtime and go back to the party after a feed?

I would bring the baby to the wedding and leave just the 4 year old with your parents.