I’m so glad you’ve posted this, I’m been trying to pluck up the courage to do the same, my daughter is 25 and drinks at least a bottle of scotch or vodka a day. She also has bpd so is on medication for that,
she was referred by her mental health team to aspire and she’s been having weekly appointments with them for the last 4 weeks. The plan is to start her on a detox program mid September, this will be done residential going in every day for the day but coming home at night. This is all dependent on the results of the blood tests she had done today.
from what I understand the staff at these places are a mix of volunteers and medical staff who work together. Each meeting she’s been to there have been 2 volunteers (ex addicts) and 1 or 2 medical staff.
im so scared about her future, we nearly lost her once and I feel the slightest thing could tip her again. She’s adamant she wants to do this, and she can fight it. All any of us can do is offer support.
my advice is to get her home, don’t stop her drinking, you won’t however hard you try. We’ve finally got her to stop drinking in her bedroom in secret which is a big thing. She is open about what she’s doing, and this sounds terrific, but we sit in the evenings with her (that’s when she drinks) and play games do model making anything really to slow the drinking down. It breaks my heart watching her our another glass but I bite my tongue. The advice we’ve been given is to carry on doing this, and encourage her to keep a record of how much she’s drinking, she was provided a measure todo this which she will sometimes use if I’m careful when suggesting it.
get her home, and get her to see that drinking in secret doesn’t help and you won’t encourage her but you will sit with her and understand. Speak to your gp ask what the plans are for her.
call alcoholics anonymously they will support you and give you advice on how to deal with this.
and don’t try to do this alone, there’s a lot of us out there trying to support loved ones through this.