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Baby dad lies about income to not provide

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Catzmatz123 · 28/08/2025 12:22

Hi I was wondering if there’s anything I can do regarding my child’s farther lying about income in order to only pass me 29 a month . My son’s father is currently driving a car costing him 400 a month in finance yet he’s down as only claiming benefits . He only gets 300 from universal credit but he can afford a 2024 plate car for 400 a month . He uses his mother bank account as that’s how gets away with it .

My son’s 7 and I’ve basically raised him alone with his dad coming and going . Last October was the last time my son saw his dad . It’s been hard living in a private rent dealing with all the cost on my own . My son is starting year 3 this September and as much as money was struggle before hand I now have to pay for school meals as I work 20 hours a week . Ive tried reporting that my baby dad is indeed making more money then he makes out but nothing has happened and i dont find it fair how I’ve been working since 16 years old trying to provide for my son and is still struggling 7 years later and he gets to pass me only a petty under 30 pounds a month . He never bothers with my sons birthday or Christmas and this is affecting my mental health not only because of money but because my poor baby who always wanted a relationship with his dad and been let down his whole life . It really is bothering me it seems so unfair and evil yet he’s getting away with it is there anything I can do ?

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breakdown98765 · 28/08/2025 12:24

The whole system is broken. I’m so sorry. I have no advice but commenting to bump your post.

Do you have evidence of him working? Can you report him for benefit fraud?

Witchling · 28/08/2025 12:25

Nothing you can do really - and its very sad - but he is the one that will be losing out by no relationship with his son

Taztoy · 28/08/2025 12:26

If his mother is prepared to subsidise him, and/or he is working cash in hand, there is very little you can do.

similarly he can’t be forced to see your son.

i’m sorry.

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Mrsttcno1 · 28/08/2025 12:27

Report to HMRC with any evidence you have that lifestyle does not match income, you can even do this anonymously via tax evasion line. The only way to rectify it is to submit it for thorough investigation.

MrsSlocombesCat · 28/08/2025 12:27

Definitely report him for benefit fraud, then hopefully it will be proved that he has a job. Tell the benefits hotline he's using his mother's account.

MoonlightMidnight · 28/08/2025 12:29

Nothing you can do unless you have solid proof or evidence he is earning and not declaring. I get £28 a month for 4 kids!

allthemiddlechildrenoftheworld · 28/08/2025 12:48

@Catzmatz123 do you actually know who he is employed with

Catzmatz123 · 28/08/2025 12:51

Thank you will try this

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