Cosleeping with toddler but want a night away

[HollyBNanny]

Hi there

i currently co sleep with my 21month old, always have, and I have the opportunity to spend the night away with my partner at a hotel this weekend (we did this much earlier with my first who I didn't co sleep with as intensively)

my mum had offered to stay but currently we sleep on a floor bed ...

my mum looked after my first born a few times overnight and it was fine but Im a bit more reluctant with this dd2 and not sure I want my mum cosleeping with her as she takes a sleeping tablet ?

not sure how to go about it really! Any advice?!

thanks

holly

You can't go this is one of the disadvantages of co sleeping. You've chosen to sleep with your child every night for nearly 2 years you can't suddenly decide not to because you got a better offer.

Does your dc have a cot or bed somewhere? Do you have a spare room?

We co-slept with both of ours until 4 ish and probably even later with youngest. But the handful of times we went away (tbf this was when they were more like 3), they were put to sleep in their own rooms and settled back to sleep there when they woke up. Or alternatively, if your dc doesn’t have a bedroom, your mum could put them to sleep on your bed with a bed guard and either sleep in the spare room with a monitor or sleep on an air mattress in your room.

The bigger concern would be the use of sleeping tablets. If your mum is taking one to sleep, I would be concerned about her being able to safely wake and function for night wakings.

One solution might be to bring in extra help. MIL, for example, is a T1 diabetic and also used to be a heavy drinker. We couldn’t safely leave her with dc unsupervised. So the couple times we had her look after our dc, we had to bring in someone else (one of dh’s aunties or BIL/SIL) who basically babysat MIL so she could babysit our dc. It was a bit ridiculous. But it meant MIL still felt like she was helping out, but she did so under the watchful eye of someone who could take charge in an emergency.

This!

Errr.....cosleeping or not, she shouldn't be watching your kids overnight if she takes sleeping tablets

Your DC will be fine for one night, maybe they won't sleep amazingly but they will be fine.

Your Mum can absolutely not take a sleeping tablet while looking after your children, cosleeping or not.

Thanks everyone,

I am veering on not going away currently (it's 20mins up the road , my partner is managing a new hotel and we have been gifted a night there as a welcoming in gift so it just feels so tempting!)

I semi co slept with my first , settled her in her cot then went into her room and slept from maybe 2am onwards and she was cared for maybe 3 nights in total between 1-5years old by my mum overnight ...

I agree my mum couldn't take her tablet , and wouldn't allow her to do that and co sleep but I did sense some judgement in a couple of comments above which I absolutely reject. As a committed mother there is no better 'offer' 😆

im a devoted mum with a child who is extremely close with her grandparents and wondering how I can take one night to myself in yeaaarrrssss.

anyway, thanks for the more constructive comments I appreciate them!

I will have a think!

xxx

You should definitely go!