How can I help my child develop him perseverance?

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Six year old, lovely child, very fun and creative but I've noticed he very very quickly gets upset and frustrated if he can't do something right away, flies off the handle and stomps off.

I've seen other kids his age (he has lots of school friends and I make a big effort to arrange meet ups and playdates etc) try and try and try, really determined to achieve a task or challenge but he is the polar opposite of that!

Does anyone have any tips or advice on how I can help him with this?

He may well be neurodivergent, ADHD or audhd like me and his sibling but not diagnosed yet.

Small things can help.

Praise the effort not the outcome.

It seems counterintuitive, ignore the negative reactions, and find something to praise about what they did, before they 'lost it' It could be something as small as 'I love the way you had a go at that'

It's difficult to change from "Good Job! You did it!" to changing the praise to the effort they've made. You will need to actively focus on catching those moments!

It won't happen overnight, but you can build the value of effort over outcomes.