I am really struggling with my youngest daughter . She has always been way more defiant than my eldest - knows what she wants and has always had tantrums, meltdowns etc when she was a toddler she used to head butt the floor when she couldn’t get her own way etc
her behaviour has since become worse . She finds it extremely difficult to regulate her emotions. When something goes wrong or not her way, she gets really angry. To the point where she will hurt adults around her , my self her dad and her sister . We are at the point now where we don’t know how to manage these outbursts. We try not give attention as I feel this is what she wants , but at the same time it’s hard not to when shes hurting you. Sometimes I can snap her out of it and she will calm down , other times it will just go on and on. Why does she get so angry? And how can I help her regulate this. It’s affecting all of us now. At school she shows none of this behaviour or at least not that they tell us. Is she masking it at school? Or is it that she doesn’t have the same routine at home?
I really need help. I have always thought that maybe has she got sensory needs- she doesn’t like certain textures. Labels on clothes. Everything itches her. She gets fixated on one outfit etc
any help is greatly appreciated