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JMW917 · 23/08/2025 16:20

I'm really struggling & I don't know why..
I've always dreamed of being a mum, the first 12 weeks I was so happy & absolutely loved motherhood. My LG is now 9.5 months & I absolutely hate it (not her, I love her lol)
I just don't enjoying being a mum, I now hate my life.. My partner works ALOT as in leaves at 6am & gets back at 9pm 7 days a week. He takes a day off every couple of weeks if I'm lucky.
I've decided to put my LG into nursery 1 day a week to give myself a break. My partner hates the idea & likes to remind me of it daily. I don't know what to do, I cry most days.. My LG is such a good girl aswell I'm just really not enjoying being a mum..
Is this normal? Will it pass? Or will I feel like this forever? I don't know what to do.

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NerrSnerr · 23/08/2025 16:27

Why is your partner working 7 days a week? What is he doing 6am- 9pm? Are you sure he’s working this time and not just opting out of parenting?

mondaytosunday · 23/08/2025 16:32

I put my kids in full day nursery two days a week when I was a sahm. Tell your DH he needs to be home two days a week to be an actual parent before he starts giving an opinion on what you do.
Bring a parent is a lot if drudgery - it can feel like an endless round of cooking, cleaning, changing nappies and doing it all again. D you get out and about? Joined any baby groups? I’d definitely put your baby in daycare if you can afford it and do something for YOU.

FTM09q24 · 23/08/2025 16:55

You have a DH problem.

Older babies/toddlers are pretty relentless. It's boring, it's tiring as hell, they push all your buttons, they need constant entertainment etc. Nursery or some form of childcare is absolutely needed. If he were home more, he'd know.

Going back to work is amazing (assuming you don't have to work long hours etc). So I highly recommend it.

My DS is 1 and I ADORE him. He is the light of my life.

No way could I be alone with him 24/7, 7 days a week. I'd lose my mind.

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JMW917 · 23/08/2025 19:44

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Poodleeatingnoodle · 23/08/2025 19:54

Ohh I hate the baby stage. Newborn is alright but after that to about 18 months both times I've not enjoyed it. They are just little rage balls intent on harming themselves and playing with the most dangerous thing they can find so you can't take your eyes off them for a second. It's exhausting. From around 18 months they are actually fun. It gets easier before that but incrementally so you don't really notice it.
Doing it on your own 7 days a week? No wonder you aren't enjoying it. Either you put your LG in Nursery or your husband takes at least a day off a week to parent. He doesn't get a say otherwise.

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